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Should you wait 8 weeks till you can try again after a miscarriage?
I just had a miscarriage last week. I was devestated. After all I have been through to get there and then bam seems like it was taken from me. I was five weeks when I miscarried it seemed like everything was going through a cycle to get there. First I had light bleeding and then my hcg levels started dropping then I started having severe cramps and then heavy bleeding along with lots of clots with my levels continuing to drop and I knew what was happening I just didnt want to believe it. I went to the doctor the other day and he says my body is doing a good job of flushing it out of my system and there is nothing else he should do at this moment. He wants me to wait 8 weeks before trying again. I feel like my biological clock is ticking here and I am not getting any younger. I dont want to wait 8 weeks am I wrong? I feel like if God has a purpose for this child it will be born reguardless of any circumstances given. I have seen shows where they do everything they are not suppose to and still have healthy babies.
Hi, I totally agreed with rccresswell. Indeed having a m/c really made me learnt that statistics are not something to rely on. Esp when we have fallen into the smaller percentage of the statistic. I too have bad morning sickness and have seen my baby's heart beating strongly at 8 weeks. Then it stopped growing at 9 weeks. Before knowing that I have miscarried, i was relieved when i read that the percentage of having a m/c after seeing a heartbeat has dropped to 5%. Nothing can prepare me for the pain I felt inside when I know the baby has died.
I am deeply sorry for everyone here for losing their little ones. I can truly feel your pain. I am having a hard time adjusting to the fact that I have lost my baby (m/c at 21 May). But there is no one that is able to relate to me. No one was able to console me or comfort me. Nor can I voice out my sadness to anyone who will be able to understand if they have not been through it (although I wish they wont ever need to experience it).
Hubby and I and will wait for at least two cycles before we ttc (although I desperately want a baby now). My dr has advised that if the uterus lining is not thick enough, it might not be able to sustain the next pregnancy.
Do not give up hope everyone. The day will come for us when our wish will be fulfilled.
Hugs,
Grace
I am deeply sorry for everyone here for losing their little ones. I can truly feel your pain. I am having a hard time adjusting to the fact that I have lost my baby (m/c at 21 May). But there is no one that is able to relate to me. No one was able to console me or comfort me. Nor can I voice out my sadness to anyone who will be able to understand if they have not been through it (although I wish they wont ever need to experience it).
Hubby and I and will wait for at least two cycles before we ttc (although I desperately want a baby now). My dr has advised that if the uterus lining is not thick enough, it might not be able to sustain the next pregnancy.
Do not give up hope everyone. The day will come for us when our wish will be fulfilled.
Hugs,
Grace
hi lena i big thankyou for taking an interest in me and my news....you dont know or u prob do how much this forum is and has helped me get through this last month its been great i just feel sooo positive and happy i just know this next time things will be so right and so im sending u some positive thoughts for ur test results lena keep positive it has made such a difference to me over the loss of my first bubba we will get through this and be talking bout our pregnancies soon i just know it!! keep me posted on your progress and i will do the same keep smiling lena and remember think POSITIVE ;D luv KLB xx
Yeah for you KLB... Hope it works for you.. Good luck in all you do :) They did some labs on me after I miscarried and apparently I have gotten back some abnormal results.. I have to call the doctor Monday and they are sending me to have some kind of test done next month... and I have to get instructions for any future pregnancies :( Hope all goes well with me ...
got the go ahead to ttc from my doc because my cycle all over the place im going back on clomid just so i know when im ovulating so can start this if i dont get a period in two wks feel very happy and just wanted to share my news with u all any news bout u girls id lve to hear sending u all positive hugs xx
Thank you Lil Lady... I hope that too.. that we all are blessed one day with sweet little babies.
Sorry about your loss. I understand how you are feeling as losing a child at any age is devastating. I would definitely just relax and worry about your health before you start trying for another. My cycle didnt show until 6 weeks after my first m/c. I was stressed everyday and thought it would never come or something bad happened during surgery. But the day that I stopped worrying and decided to let it go AF showed her face. It will come just be patient. Your body has gone through many changes and it needs time to restore itself. Good luck and sending some baby dust!!
Lena0030 - Deciding on when to start "trying" again is different for everyone. Many woman want to try again right away because they want their baby that they lost. Just make sure you were able to grieve your lost baby properly before trying for another. Having a m/c is something that will stay with you forever. Make sure your wounds are healed otherwise it can cause emotional issues in the long run. I with you the best of luck and sorry about your loss. I pray that we will all have healthy babies in our arms someday.
Lena0030 - Deciding on when to start "trying" again is different for everyone. Many woman want to try again right away because they want their baby that they lost. Just make sure you were able to grieve your lost baby properly before trying for another. Having a m/c is something that will stay with you forever. Make sure your wounds are healed otherwise it can cause emotional issues in the long run. I with you the best of luck and sorry about your loss. I pray that we will all have healthy babies in our arms someday.
its two wks tomorrow 19/5 that i had a d/c feeling really well just broken hearted after losing our first baby im ready to resume normal sex life waiting for cycle to resume any help from u girls who have been through this would be great when will period come oh spec says to try again after first period i cant wait so excited to be pregnant again but nervous also
Wow..suddenly I am lost for words. I am glad I get to talk to someone who has been through what I have and each story its so sad but yet inspirational(I think I spelled it right).I think going through it I can now relate and maybe help someone else. I know the positive side is we can try again and your right carrying it to full term would have been much harder and how soon we adjust to the fact it is no longer here. I am praying for my child who is gone and the one that I hope to carry full term when I concieve again.I dont think it is ever to early to pray.but thank you both for those stories.I needed to read that.I wish you both the best and I will keep u in my prayers.
No I have yet to carry a baby to full term. They have ran many tests but everything keeps coming back Normal. So we will wait longer this time and try again.
But a dear friend of mine actually had the same thing happen, although she had 2 children already. Having 2 children and then 2 m/c is very confusing and scary. No matter what your prior history - it could happen. I wish you much luck!
But a dear friend of mine actually had the same thing happen, although she had 2 children already. Having 2 children and then 2 m/c is very confusing and scary. No matter what your prior history - it could happen. I wish you much luck!
Hey Lena
I do agree with that. It doesn't matter how far along you are it all hurts the same. When I miscarried my son my bleeding was light and then bam is was gushing!!! I filled 6 pads in an hour. About 2 hours later my waters broke and there he was in all entirity. My husband and I have decided to not ttc, we just want to relax and have unprotected sex when we do and if it happens it happens.
The one thing I learnt from my miscarriage is that all those wives tales are false. They say if you are very sick and nautious during early pregnancy the baby is fine, if you see a heartbeat, it reduces your chances and if you have had prior healthy pregnancies that lessons your chances as well. At my 13 and a half week check up my doctor said yep everything seems to be in the right place for your dates and that I had a 5% chance of miscarrying. Well I fell in that 5%
I think the only thing that gives me strength is that I didn't have the power to carry him to full term but I do have the power to try again when the time is right. I have learnt that when you try and try to conceive it takes it's time. Our first two children took 6 months of trying - long for us but probably not long for other people and when we fell pregnant with Ethan my son I miscarried we were pregnant two weeks later because we weren't too bothered. Hopefully that happens next time.
Just try and relax and try not to put too much pressure on yourself!!! Stay strong and you will conceive again. Try and be positive because that's where I am right now!!!!
I do agree with that. It doesn't matter how far along you are it all hurts the same. When I miscarried my son my bleeding was light and then bam is was gushing!!! I filled 6 pads in an hour. About 2 hours later my waters broke and there he was in all entirity. My husband and I have decided to not ttc, we just want to relax and have unprotected sex when we do and if it happens it happens.
The one thing I learnt from my miscarriage is that all those wives tales are false. They say if you are very sick and nautious during early pregnancy the baby is fine, if you see a heartbeat, it reduces your chances and if you have had prior healthy pregnancies that lessons your chances as well. At my 13 and a half week check up my doctor said yep everything seems to be in the right place for your dates and that I had a 5% chance of miscarrying. Well I fell in that 5%
I think the only thing that gives me strength is that I didn't have the power to carry him to full term but I do have the power to try again when the time is right. I have learnt that when you try and try to conceive it takes it's time. Our first two children took 6 months of trying - long for us but probably not long for other people and when we fell pregnant with Ethan my son I miscarried we were pregnant two weeks later because we weren't too bothered. Hopefully that happens next time.
Just try and relax and try not to put too much pressure on yourself!!! Stay strong and you will conceive again. Try and be positive because that's where I am right now!!!!
cresswell..wow you was further than me..but I am sure the pain is all the same. I am sorry for your loss as well as anybody else who had to go through such a horrible experience. I pray for each of you.
Thank all of you for your comments. I guess with each person its different and you have to find when your at your comfort zone.I was deeply depressed.It wasnt like a suprise we had been trying for so long to add on to our family I guess when i got pregnant the last thing I would think of was miscarriage. Sometimes it still doesnt seem real and even though I can talk more openly about it now I still sometimes get down.I will keep everyone updated.I only pray the next time I wont loose it.Thank you everyone for the help its always appreciated.
Sorry to hear about your loss. Although you are hurting emotional right now it would be the best to wait aleast one cycle and let your body go back to normal. Not only is it good for your body to recover you also need time to grieve your loss. It is highly recommended to wait atleast two cycles but some woman want a baby so badly after a m/c. After my first m/c I got pregnant again after one cycle. Sadly though, it also ended in another m/c. In hindsight I wish I could go back and would have waited longer. I would just give it time and when the time is right it will happen. Good luck and SSBD your way!!
Hey Lena0030
I miscarried a litte boy at 14 weeks on April 13th. I asked the doctor at the hospital when we could ttc again and she said whenever you want. I believe your body is more powerful than everybody thinks. If it is not ready to fall pregnant it won't so trust your instincts and do what is right for yourself.
Thinking of you and you will have to keep us posted when you fall pregnant again.
Good luck,Carla
I miscarried a litte boy at 14 weeks on April 13th. I asked the doctor at the hospital when we could ttc again and she said whenever you want. I believe your body is more powerful than everybody thinks. If it is not ready to fall pregnant it won't so trust your instincts and do what is right for yourself.
Thinking of you and you will have to keep us posted when you fall pregnant again.
Good luck,Carla
Thanks, I have to go for bloodwork Monday to see if my hcg levels are back to zero. Like I dont think I a ready this week but I just thought 8 weeks is a long time for someone who just had a miscarriage and is wanting it now. I have a 6 year old and I am thankful for him we have been trying for a couple of years and when we stopped it happened and then a miscarriage. I just didnt want to wait the 8 weeks before trying again but thanks for the info. It is nice to talk to someone who has been through it.
In my experience, doctors will tell you to wait so that your hormones can level out and you can have another period or two as a basis for a timeline for when you become pregnant again. I don't necessarily agree with this, and hubby and I didn't wait after our miscarriage last August. We just did what felt right for us and started trying again when we were ready. Just trust your body and do what feels right. You are not going to hurt anything by not waiting 8 weeks.
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