Using birth control after miscarriage

[Jennie86]

Hello i am 24 and i've had two miscarriages in the past 6 months. 1st @ 4 weeks and 2nd @ 6 weeks. Both were natural miscarriages. My DR advised me both times now to wait 3 months before trying again. This time he put me on birth control because my hormones are unbalanced. My husband and I plan on TTC again at the 3rd month. I'm not a fan of birth control anyways so i wasn't happy about going on it but if it is suppose to level out my hormones then i'll try it. I've been off BC for over 2 years now so i am scared it's going to mess me up. I'm torn between getting a 2nd opinion or sticking with my DR and taking BC. I've already started BC because i thought i made my mind up but still am unsure about it all. Has anyone been in the same boat. If so what was your outcome?

[Jennie86]

I am still being so flip floppy! This is so stressful! After talking to my husband and telling him i think i found my answer to swtich, he recommended i stay at my DR and just talk to them about the Birth control. He knows i've not been a fan of it a long time now so for me to be on it, is my main source of stress. So i am going to call them and see if there is something else i can be on or do to balance me out. I've been nauseas the past two mornings, lasting up until mid day and i know it's the BC.
I don't blame you for telling people, we did with both and i don't regret it, it gave me more people to talk to about it. It's hard to tell them you've lost a baby but it's good to have some more shoulders to lean on. Also just because we have had miscarriages dosen't mean we should be deprived of waiting to tell people, right?! :) Share the joy!!
I done the same thing with my 2nd miscarriage before it started i had to use the restroom like every 30 mins i don't know if i knew something was wrong or what but then i started to bleed. I thought i had a bladder infection and i may have my bladder felt so tight and full even after i went to the restroom...who knows...baby making is so stressfull and hard! The people that don't need kids, it's so easy for them it's so unfair!
Good luck on your appointment next week! I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers! And keep my updated to! :)

[StephRox13]

It doesn't hurt for the 2nd opinion. You can still have your regular doctor handle your care even if you seek more advice. In my situation I didn't like the doctor, the facility, the ER, nothing. I had no qualms going somewhere else. I total get the sooner is better. We had been ttc for 6 years & nothing. Then all of a sudden I'm getting knocked up everytime my husband looks at me! So why would I want to put on hold something my body is finally "almost" ready for. So I waited the one cycle to give my insides that one more clean out then we tried again. Mentally I really needed that extra month, I was really devastated after my 2nd mc. But I'm excited & already told a lot of people even tho I probably shouldn't have. I am nervous and run to the bathroom everytime I feel a little cramp, twinge or trickle to check for blood. My first appointment is on the 17th. Who knew baby making & staying pregnant was so stressful?!?

Good luck. Keep me informed how you're doing. Praying for you too. Listen to your body. Listen to your heart. Never lose faith.

[Jennie86]

First off Thank you for your time and congratulations, I will be praying for you and your baby!!! Maybe third time is a charm like they say! I have been going back and forth for almost a week now. I like my DR and all the nurses and hospital so i am just sad about leaving and that's what's holding me back. I know he won't budge about the waiting 3 months which is fine but sooner is better :) but this whole BC thing i don't like, already feeling side effects i think. I want to get pregnant not prevent it!! But i have picked out a new DR that i think will really help me. So maybe i will give her a call tomorrow. My husband and I can't wait to start our family!

[StephRox13]

I'd get a 2nd opinion. My OB I had after my 1st mc in July (i was only 3 1/2 weeks) put me on bc & wanted me to wait 3 months b4 ttc again. I have PCOS so my hormones are all out of wack & I wasnt gonna pay $50 a month for something I didn't want to happen! I wanted to get pregnant again! I had mc naturally like u felt great, so I did take the pill for 1 month (cuz I got a trial pack for free), got my period, then started ttc. I got pregnant right away but mc again at 7 weeks this time. I picked a different hospital & different OB. I had better follow up care & monitoring. Still unknown why I miscarried but once my hcg #s dropped to 0 my OB said to wait til I get my 1st period then we can ttc again. He said partly to give our bodies, minds & hearts a chance to recover but mainly so they (the doctors & us) have a definite CD1 to base our next pregnancy after. We waited, ttc, got my 2nd  period since mc (boo), ttc now 7 weeks pregnant & feeling great! I feel totally different this pregnancy than I did in the ones I miscarried. In the others I prettyuch had pain & spotting right away. And I also had UTIs. This one I just feel pregnant, sore & growing boobs, in already pooching out, tired tired tired, & hungry! Crossing my fingers this one wants to stay! I'll finish this by saying I got pregnant 10 yrs ago. My son was born at 33 weeks, stayed in the NICU for 4 weeks but is now a healthy 9 1/2 yr old.

So good luck. Listen to your body. Stay positive (easier said than done). Have faith.