anyone else had to go through labour and a funeral for a nine week feotus

[ashleigh120680]

I went to the hospital on the 4 june and they told me there was no heartbeat, i was 9 weeks and 4 days, they gave me 3 options let it go naturally, take tablets or hv a dnc, i chose to let nature take ts course, after 2 weeks nothing happened, i went in and decided to take the tablets, now i no that wasthe worst decision i have ever made. i took 1 tablet last tuesday and had to go back last thursday to have 4 pesiries inserted into me. i went through labour till the baby passed. i was in hospital for 10 hours waiting. it finally happened. i was then asked to sign a form because it was a recognisable foetus it had to be cremated, i recieved a phone call yesterday from funeral directors telling me that they are holding a funeral for my baby next tues 29 at te crematorium, its killing me and i feel as if my head is very screed up. Has anyone else been in this position and how did you overcome it all

[smr08]

First off i'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my son at almost 5 months along and in the state i'm from anything after 16 weeks you need to make arrangements. We had our son cremated but chose to keep his ashes. I believe each state is different in the way they handle things. Loosing a child is the hardest thing a parent should have to go through, give yourself time to grieve, healing takes a while. You'll always hold your baby in your heart, and with time you'll start to heal. I'm always around if you need to talk. Wishing you strength and peace.

~Lori~

[ashleigh120680]

we buried our baby last night at the cemetary with my grandad, its just really awful whats happened and  really dont no how to get past it all, seeing them carry the little casket into the cremetorium then the little urn yesterday its so traumatic how can i get past it all

[rccresswell]

Hi I am so sorry for your loss.  I started to miscarry at 14 weeks.  I had no clue there was anything wrong with my son before I started spotting.  I did pass my son naturally after my waters breaking and seeing my baby in full.  After testing I was told my baby had passed between 10 and 11 weeks.  We did not have a funeral service.  I do know that all babies that are miscarried do get cremated and buried with other babies that have passed and they do have a funeral service for all babies.  We did choose to take our son home and bury him in a pot plant.  I hope that helps.

[natlee27]

my sister lost her baby at 12weeks and they sent the fetus away for testing to see if they could find out what caused her to miscarry, but no they didnt offer her a funeral or anything, they didnt even get back to her at all...