I need to talk about this, I am a bit vulnerable, thank God for this new forum. Every day that goes by it's even worse, it doesn't get any easier!
We have been ttc for 3 years and in May 1st 2008 got my first BFP!! You guys can imagine our happiness!! We didn't say anything to our family b/c mothers day was around the corner, what a great Grandma mother's day present would it have been!! SOO we thought. Well 5 days later when doc called me to give me the good news (confirmation) I was already bleeding! This can not be happening! After 3 years and to end up in m/c, Nope, there has to be some kind of mistake!!! and so many other things that went thru our minds! I am still sad, I think even more, I usually don't talk about it much, I am the type of person that is always happy and usually don't like people to see me sad, and this subject is too hard to talk about, especially w/ people that probably won't understand. But it was my baby, I was pregnant, and I don't have anything to remind me of it. The what if, keeps on in our minds, we really don't know what we did do different to get preg, or why the m/c happen. and if it will ever happen for us! 13 days ago I got my AF, the first after the m/c, we are trying really hard this time around. I keep a bracelet that reminds me of my baby, I don't know if it does any good, cause I think about "her" all the time, probably will, even without the bracelet. I say "her" cause I have a feeling it would have been a girl, don't know why. It hasn't been any easier, My SIL just gave birth to a baby girl, and I am her godmother, she is beautiful, but when I have her in my hands, all I think is about my baby and like I said before, got to put on my "happy face", for me it would be worse if my family starts asking me about my feelings, or just say that I am sad over nothing, that is not a big deal. Hubby and I don't talk about it, we did try, but we both ended up crying and made us upset, sooo the only time I talk about this is here, in the forums, and especially today. For me everything happen so fast, and although I did cry when I started bleeding, didn't cry again until 2 weeks after that, when I cried all day! and couple of weeks ago, I have been sad, thinking alot about it, I guess as weeks go by, and I think about how far ahead in my preg I would have been, I am getting soo sad
I am sorry, if it might not make much sence what I wrote here, i have been crying all the way since I started writing.