ttc after two loses

[avaa7]

Hello everyone,

i have had two m/c in past 6 months. I am still getting over from my last m/c  ( 10/09/10). i had on and off bleeding for about two months so cant say if i have gotten my period then.my body is still not back to normal but I think i am having my period now ( not sure though coz its very different how it used to be ! first three days it was just few spots and today 22nd its a lot of blood coming!)). I am very surprised how my body can betray me..first two m/c and now seem foreign to me..i think because of all these have been depressed/sad. I am looking for hope for future..I have been tempted to try again but very scared to try. there are some tests ( blood work) which are pending. my  dr said try after they know test result and some say i should try in first few months and its already about three months. i might ovulate soon ( if the bleeding i am having now is my period) .I am so confused what to do. Ladies i have been reading all you and amazed to see how wonderful you are. I am really looking forward to connect with you. Your help and suggestions will  make me through this phase of my life. Please let me know your opinion/s. Thanks a lot to my new friends.

[avaa7]

Hey dear thanks a lot for the info. i heard from my hematologist today and he too recommended Lovenox shots once I become pregnant which i dont when will happen. I want to wait some more time before start trying. How are you doing? are you ttc? take care

[queenspade]

I was also told that I have MTHFR.  If I get pregnant again I will be on Lovenox, blood thinner.  You should check out the MTHFR group on here.  It's on my page if you can't find it.

[avaa7]

Thank you queenspade and jenkaye I am also sorry for your losses my new friends. Its so devastating and hard. My first loss was in July at wk 6 ( had D & C on 07/15/10) and second was natural m/c on October 9, 2010 probably around 5 wk. after D&C i didnt have any problem my period came exactly one month after and my OB gave me ok sign to try so we did and got pregnant in Sept but unfortunately m/c. I regretted later thinking i should have waited longer. This time after m/c in october am having problem, my bleeding didnt stop for long time until Nov 25th and then i am having again bleeding.. i think I am having my period this time ( I think  before nov 25th i have my period also, which was very different i didnt understand). So I am little upset as my body is not functioning how it was before. Also after my last loss Dr ran some blood test ( basic tests- Thrombiphilia/ Anticardiolipin/ antinuclear Abs / Thyroids) Most of them were negative but one test they found there is MTHFR genetic defect, which could be responsible for blood clotting disorder or problem with folic acid absorption which is very imp for baby development. I was sent to hematologist they ran tons of test which i dont know about i have to wait for results. earlier in Nov my OB said I can start trying after one full cycle which I guess i got but I have to wait for results.I am afriad though what might come and how long i have to delay ttc for these.I so want to have my kid but i am sooo scarred to try because i dont want to lose another baby i dont have any kid yet and dont know if i ever will have.There is not a single day when i dont think about my lost babies and dont even know if i can ever feel my baby in my arms. I am so obsessed with all these that nothing come in my mind..I dont even know when I can start trying..am seeing my Hematlogist and OB in next two weeks so will know what future has for me. Hugs to you too and some baby dust to both of you.

[jenkaye21]

So sorry to hear of your losses.  It can be so devastating.  I recently had a m/c--- my third---- and had to have a d&c.  Trying again after a loss is so scary, but it's what I can't wait to do.  
I hope the results of your testing willl give you some answers and some hope.  I am awaiting results, too, from my last m/c.  Many times, though, there is no identifiable cause.
Hugs and prayers to you.

[queenspade]

First, I want to say that I am sorry for you losses.  I have experienced a total of 5 losses in the past 2 years.  Everyone is different & when your body gets back to normal can take some time.  With my previous losses I was very fortunate & my body got right back on track.  I had a D&C last Thursday & I am still spotting off & on.  Did your dr tell you when he thought it would be ok for you to try again?  Sometimes they reccomend waiting a few months & sometimes it's ok to try again right away.  I think it also depends on how far along you were when you miscarried.  Do you know which tests results you are waiting for?   This last time I was very early with a blighted ovum, my dr. said to wait one cycle & try again.