Teenager doesn't want to come home

[toughlove17]

Hello everyone, this is my first time going into this site and really hope God put it in front of me to get the answer I need.  My 16 yr daughter has been out since yesterday afterschool, she was going to stay over a friends house and when I confronted her that I wanted to talk to her friends mom, everythihng started.  She's been lying and lying, but the point is that she does not want to come home and I have no idea where she's at. She doesn't answer my telephone calls but has texted me that she's ok and she will come home when she's ready.  I feel with no power no matter what I tell he, she doesnt tell where she's at. I went to the Miami Beach police and they told me that I cannot report her missing because she's been in contact with me, therefore she has not been kidnapped, abducted or any of that stuff.  So in other words is all up to the paretns.  please help me I feel my daughter is in control and I cannot do anything until she comes home.  But I am very worry.  thanks for reading

[michcb]

I have a 16 yr old daughter that has decided to not come home for the past 3 days.  She has been going out with a guy that we thought was good for her who is almost 18. They have been together just over 2 months and claim total and undying love.  Problem is she has been cutting classes, not going to school at all claiming a mental breakdown.  She has a mental health counsellor that I haven't seen much help from at all. She is fine around lots of other people. Goes to classes when she feels like and basically has blown off her first semester of grade 11. She used to be an honor roll, principals list student until grade 10, that is when things started to go wrong. She has already gone through the drug conselling issues. I am praying to the Lord for help, but wonder should we tell her to come and get her belongings, and kick her out or should we wait for her to possible come home.  She texted me saying she wasn't sure when she was coming home, but her phone is dead now.  There is a phone where she is staying.  HELP.  DO I JUST WAIT???

[curiouscj]

Hello,

How is your daughter 7 years later? I hope things are going well!

I am having almost the same problem with my granddaughter who just turned 17. She decided she was going with her friend even though I said she couldn't since she's refusing to go to school after failing all her classes. It is going on two days now. It is midnight right now. She finally answered my text when I threatened to call the police, and she assured me that she was all right. I bribed her with food and a picture of her chihuahua waiting for her. Howbis your daughter?

[Hardjayboy]

I have an out of control stepson aged 16 who goes out every night and sometimes doesn't come back for days and treats the house like a hotel never doing anything at all.  When I confronted him recently and insisted he stayed in he beat me up.  He doesn't go to school and just lies about all day watching tv or playing games with me.  I have now reached the conclusion that it is better to let him work his way through this stage of development and he hope he becomes more mature.

[KIII]

When I ask my 16-year old son why he doesn't want to be home, he says it's because he's a teenager.  He at least now has a job, since he drives and is costing us money in car insurance and gas (he'll now be paying some of.)  He failed a class for the first semester, and that's bad.  He used to be a straight A student until middle school, but at least B's and C's.  Now all C's and failed the Spanish first semester.  I do think he's doing some kind of drug, even though is says he quit.  It has been very hard.

[Frillman]

I think back to when I was 16.  The only thing that I would listen to is myself.  I knew it all and nothing anyone else would tell me was going to make any difference at all.  My 16 year old decided she was going to start making the rules, therefore it's time for her to have her own place where she can apply these rules.  These rules will not take place in my house, and I wish her nothing but the best.  I will always be here for her, but I  refuse to be lied to, walked on, and made out to be the bad guy.  I hope she has a warm coat because it's cold outside.

[kidsundercontrol]

I also have a 16 year old daughter, and she has disresrespected me for the last time. On tuesday she got caught in my house having sex with her so called boyfriend, of two months. Knowing my number one rule is no one in the house when Im not there. When I confronted her she had no remorse and said that she did nothing wrong this is her house. I said no honey this  was your home, not your house. I did kick her out. made sure she has  roof and food on the table. Some of friends do not agree with my deceision.  But I believe that just becasue we are the grown ups/adults why should we take the disrespect from them?  Yes they are only 16, but if you are old enough to do drugs have sex, then you should be old enough to realize that having sex in your mothers house is a BIG NO-NO...

[Erica_tech]

My 16 year old son left home about 4 months ago. He and his dad had a fight and he just left. Even though he texts me everynight to let me know that he is safe and he loves me and goodnight, I still worry all the time about him and I miss him terribly. His little 7 year old sister cries often because she misses him. He says he has had enough of his dad and refuses to come home.