Just need a woman's point of view

[leahmoriah15]

Hi ladies. This isn't baby related. I just need the advice of another woman. I am going through a situation with my boyfriend who is also the father of my  unborn child. About four months ago I saw where he and a coworker of his were texting and I came and cross a few texts that were disrespectful. I mentioned it to him and he assured me that he had handled the situation. In October as I was going through our phone bill I saw that he and this same coworker had texted a lot, sometimes starting as early as 7 am and as late as 12am. He and I got into a big argument and he admitted that he deleted the texts because he knew I would be upset and admitted that at times they had gotten disrespectful. He called her and told her they could no longer talk. Fast forward to November and and I get the bill and check it to see if he kept his word. Unfortunately he hadnt. They exchanged 1200 texts from the date that he claimed he told her they could no longer talk. We got into yet another argument and I explained that I felt betrayed because I made it clear that I didn't trust the situation and asked him to stop and he blatantly lied about doing so. He claimed he was going to let her know. I saw where they were still exchanging texts late that night and I took all of his things to his house and told him I was done. He said sorry etc but I was done. The next day he calls and I go over there and we talk and he promises to leave it alone. He deleted her number and I asked him to delete her off Facebook which he did. We are currently trying to rebuild our relationship but last week I saw where they are friends again on facebook. I feel that this is a slap in my face and that he feels that her feelings are more important than mine or maintaining contact with her in a more important. Any advice???? Sorry so long

[happybaby2015]

@leahmoriah15 you're welcome & best wishes hun!

[91512]

Just raise your child together and call it a day . He clearly is no good and does not care about your emotional feelings nor your trust . And if he doesn't care if you trust him , then there is no relationship . Get out while you can before you have more kids and waste more time . Because flirting is the first step , how can you be sure he hasn't taken it further ?

[leahmoriah15]

Thanks. I've pretty made up my mind to give us a break for a while so that I can focus on myself and the baby. This is causing me more stress than I need right now. The people who I have talked to in my life are trying to convince me to stay for the sake of the baby, but I am full at this point. Thank you all for validating my position and for the encouragement.

[bnl0725]

My advice is to walk away. He's never going to be someone you can trust.

[happybaby2015]

You gave him multiple chances to stop this inappropriate relationship so now you must act or he'll always know you're just giving empty threats. I'm sure you love him & want to work it out but I know you want a trustworthy, faithful partner so leave him for a period of time, focus on yourself, & move on like you could care less about him. For some reason when we show we don't care then they come begging & crawling back like puppies. You have to be strong for awhile & then take him back if he's proved by actions that he's changed. He'll realize she isn't worth ruining his family over.

[saramay2014]

I wouldnt trust him....