Just need a woman's point of view

[leahmoriah15]

Hi ladies. This isn't baby related. I just need the advice of another woman. I am going through a situation with my boyfriend who is also the father of my  unborn child. About four months ago I saw where he and a coworker of his were texting and I came and cross a few texts that were disrespectful. I mentioned it to him and he assured me that he had handled the situation. In October as I was going through our phone bill I saw that he and this same coworker had texted a lot, sometimes starting as early as 7 am and as late as 12am. He and I got into a big argument and he admitted that he deleted the texts because he knew I would be upset and admitted that at times they had gotten disrespectful. He called her and told her they could no longer talk. Fast forward to November and and I get the bill and check it to see if he kept his word. Unfortunately he hadnt. They exchanged 1200 texts from the date that he claimed he told her they could no longer talk. We got into yet another argument and I explained that I felt betrayed because I made it clear that I didn't trust the situation and asked him to stop and he blatantly lied about doing so. He claimed he was going to let her know. I saw where they were still exchanging texts late that night and I took all of his things to his house and told him I was done. He said sorry etc but I was done. The next day he calls and I go over there and we talk and he promises to leave it alone. He deleted her number and I asked him to delete her off Facebook which he did. We are currently trying to rebuild our relationship but last week I saw where they are friends again on facebook. I feel that this is a slap in my face and that he feels that her feelings are more important than mine or maintaining contact with her in a more important. Any advice???? Sorry so long

[Mimilove3]

If he cant respect YOU and BABY u dont need him in your lives. He's the one losing 2 important people. So chin up u are capable of raising that precious baby :-) if he decides to leave that girl then hes showing that u 2 are far more important...

[ohmitout]

But you can't wait on him to change if he keeps up.. I'd leave him if he does my abide by your ultimatum

[ohmitout]

Ouch.. You could ask him why he feels the need to do this like is he unhappy in your relationship for a reason you don't know about? If thats a dead end, since you've already went through the motions of confronting him and he knows you don't agree with it, I think it's ultimatum time that you won't stand for this bull**** and you have a baby on the way so he has to smarten up. With him wanting to talk it does sound like he wants you.

In the past I have also confronted the girl in similar situations because she is in the wrong as well and maybe she doesn't know the situation or that he's a taken man. That either goes where she plays dumb or you have to get mean. Haha

[leahmoriah15]

Thanks ladies. I appreciate the insight. My emotions are in overdrive especially with this pregnancy and I really needed the support of another person. I don't associate with many females so I truly appreciate the response.

[isabela2]

This is an app relate to baby but it is also somewhere where we can vent about our problems since all us girls can offer advice. Ann's we all know how we feel since we are all pregnant.  I say leave him that is so disrespectful especially after deleting her and then them going back to being friends again! Both are not respecting you at all leave his @$$! He is not worth it! He should be the most considerate ever since Ur pregnant and he is doing this to you while you are carrying his baby he is not worth it!

[mylittlemiracle418]

Foul me once shame on you. Foul me twice shame on me. That is a slap in your face! Me and my ex went through problems and we agreed that we both delete our facebook pages. And thats exactly what happened.currently to this day I don't have mine (Almost 2 years).were not together now but we still see eachother like we are. He has his. But i think we moved past all that stuff. So I dont ever say anything. Im a very forgiving person but after so much you just cant deal with it. You gave him a chance and im sorry to say but there is more to the story then what hes saying. If your anything like me. I would have called that number already and if shes a real women she will be honest. Good Luck with everything