13 years old and pregnant

[zacaray]

I an 13 years old 14 in may  and I am pregnant I have tried to tell the unborn baby’s dad but he just said that it was not his fault and I was all to balm my dad is all ways working and my mam is all ways trying to stop my three brothers from fighting so they don’t have much time left and every time i try and tell my mother my brothers all ways start fighting so she has to go and sort them out and I can not tell my brothers because they never listen to me and my sister has moved away and has a family of her own to look out for.
I have told my best friend and he said he would look after me but my family still needs to know right.
so what can I do? what is the best thing to do?
Please help the best you can

[zacaray]

all i want to is talk to her to make her see that i am ok but i will need some help with it but she HAS NOT talked to me all day

[njeosys]

You can't make your mom understand. She is hurt, upset, and trying to sort through her feelings. Give her time and when she is ready, you guys can talk.

Like I said, give Birthright a call. I'm not sure if we have a Birthright in England, but maybe they can refer you to a place near you where you and your mom can get counseling to help talk this through.

I don't know what else to tell you!

[nicky96]

How t make your mom understand..?  That isn't what you'r after sweetheart, she may not understand or want to understand  but you need to keep the lines of communication open.  Understand that this is ALOT for her to digest right now.  It may take a while ...  Don't be mad at her for her reaction(s).  You're her baby and you may feel all grown up but you aren't.  She knows what you are in for under the best circumstances (nevermind the not so good circumstances for now...)  Her hopes for you probably didn't include you having sex and getting pregnant at your age so give her a break.  She WILL come aroud, you're her baby.  Find family planning in your area and visit them - find out what's available (supportwise) in you area. visit www.birthright.org like njeosys suggested but don't get all independant or ignorant with the people who care about you the most.  If you need to talk you are welcome to leave me a message.  Good Luck.

[adawning4]

your mom is most likely disapointed that her little girl is pregnant and sexually active. Give her some time and she will come to talk to you. Dont be angry with her as I am sure she had hoped you would never be in this situation. When she tries to talk to you make sure that you express how you feel and what you would like to happen and she will let you know what your options are. Good luck to you!!!

[Leanna26]

Zacaray, I'm sure you can understand that your mom is probably a bit overwhelmed right now. Try to give her sometime. She will come to you, to talk. Just relax, use the help that Njeosys has offered, and take it easy. Im sure everything will be alright.

[zacaray]

could some one help me to find out what i can do to make my mum under stand