I feel youre discouragement with a male gynecologist. If you feel off then leave immediately. Also, unless you are leaking water or are having contractions that are at all timeable I highly doubt they will check you for dilation, but it doesnt hurt to ask I guess. It should be just a normal check up for you. Blood pressure, weight, measure your belly. If you could wait til your appointment to ask about the symptoms id think its safe to say baby will not be here any time soon, so hopefully that comforts you. Good luck momma just relax and enjoy pregnancy :). The mass majority are normal with no extreme bumps or mishaps. Most is built up in our heads.
Expectations dissappoint. Just go in there n enjoy.