depressed and pregnant

[JacquelynGiaa]

im 22 weeks pregnant , im 18 graduaating high school . i have been with my boyfriend for one year and on feb 16 2014 i found out i was having a baby .. i was already 2 months in my pregnancy ! when i told my boyfriend who is 24 he was happy about it . our relationship was full of jelousy he would always get jelous at small stuff if anybody talked to me or anything but i would to but it was love for us . he went to jail for 35 days for driving with out liscense and we talked a lot he would always say how he misses us and he loved us and not to be cheating on him. when he got out everything was good and a lot changed after a bit i found out he had made a facebook page and it really pissed me off he kept saying that i had one so why couldnt he have one but i didnt care i wanted it gone and i started blowing hes phone calling him 96 times while he was working and i guess it kind of pushed him away .. now all we ever do is argue and i all i do is cry i just feel so lonley and when ever i say something to him he gets mad quick and starts saying verbal stuff like ***** , dum *** , and all kinds of stuff and that he regrets dating me and wishes he could put hes baby inside somebody else and it hurts me so much .. he sayd hes tired of me always trying to control him and blow hes phone up and ***** at him i understand but it hurts seeing him prefer that fb page over us .. im having a boy and the name always seems to have an argument i wana call my baby Maurice and hes always saying mean stuuf like thats ah ugly name and he wants to call him jamarian and when ever i say no he starts like ***** this and ***** that ... idk what to do i just want stuuf to work out but it hurts and i want my baby to have both hes mama and dadd like it should be ..

[JacquelynGiaa]

and i meant 21 weeks ill be 22 saturday , my iphone keyboard messing it up !

[JacquelynGiaa]

thank yu very much ima start by doing me taking myself out more and going out to the mall and shopping for my bby and hanging more with friends because im always stuck in the house and over thinking Too much im to young and i got a lot of head of me .. thank all of yall for the advice and ill keep an update(: all this really made my nighht !

[jackiie44]

Think about it this way, my daddy told me this when i was pregnant with my first. "Would you want this person around your little baby, arpumd the ONE person that WONT walk out on you? Is he worthy to even meet his child if he cant even respect his babys momma? Does he respect his own momma? What makes ypu think he will put that bahy before everything else" i answered all those questions and realized i have to be the bigger person. And breaking it off before baby came was fpr the best so she disnt have to see him or be arpund him treating me that way. (Weather she understood ot not) one day she wpuld. And parents splitting up later in life is ALWAYS wprse on babies. I was a single momma for 4 months and realized the most respectable guy, most amazing guy i knew who wpuld lay in a puddle of mud so i could cross over it was my highschool friend. And ive been married to him ever sense. So just because THAT baby daddy dont wanna treat ypu like a princess and respect you. . someone out there will, and i didmt realize that it was the best decision of my life until he took on my daugjter as his own. And to rhis fay thats her daddy.. so put the horomones aside, kick is a s s to the curb an pushh that muther f u c k e r fpr child support because hunny the rhings a woman go through during pregnancy the aches paines horomones EVERYTHING they dont need a baby daddy playing wishy washy games and making you stress an cry!! Im praying for you momma! Remember you gotta think about that baby boy from here on out.. (: you gotta protect him from ppl like that! Or anyone harmful for that matter! I know..because ive been there you will feel vulnerable and all you want is to be happy and he seems to be the obly one that mildly makes you happy. Stay strong momma! And remember were all here for support, maybe oneday ypu will give me some advice! Congrats on ypur baby boy. Mines due may 19! Also, my names jacquelyn! !

[shinieshoes]

No matter what you have done it is NEVER ok for your significant other or anyone for that matter to call you names like that. It's verbal abuse. Calling his phone that often is quite excessive though lol! My husband used to talk to girls on Facebook and it drove me nuts. Eventually I got tired of worrying and arguing about it and stopped mentioning it. He stopped getting on as much when I wasn't accusing him all the time. The way a lot of guys think is ... well I might as well do it if I'm being accused of it anyways. Not saying it's right for him to be on there if your not comfortable with it. Just telling you what worked for me. Communication really is the key! Try talking calmly with him and explain why it bothers you. Good luck hun

[shann1214]

You cant change someone. I did the same stuff to my now fiance. Hes 3 yrs older so i was 18 when he turned 21 arguments CONSTANTLY about him hanging out with his friends i hated,i blew his phone up like over 100 calls an hour. We never broke up but i constantly said im done w you, youre stupid etc.. eventually i did stop bc i realized what i was doing.. now things are perfect with us. Youve just gotta "man up" and just stop act like you dont care at all and itll stop. Things will change and if they domt change, then its time to let go

[amyxo]

Oh hunny that sounds terrible,  to me it sounds as ifhhe's changed. And you definitely do not need his bullcrap while stress is harmful in ways. Best option is to let him go if yous can't work things out. It's not like your boy won't see his dad, you can arrange for visits when ever you want to. If daddy don't wanna see him then that's not your fault darling it's his.