I can't change but I don't wanna lose him :(

[MommasAngel14]

Ever since I've been with my man he's been great to me. Never cheated does everything for me & is just amazing! But me on the other hand.. I'm horrible! With this one guy 2 years ago he was the same as my man now.. perfect I thought. But after we parted I found out he was cheating & lying. Now I take that out on my hubby now. Well always accusing him of cheating & getting mad when he leaves or something. & I argue with him a lot & treat him like crap cuz I've seen my mom & sister do the same to their men my whole life & I swore I'd never be like that but look at me now. I hate it I try to change but I can't. He even cried to me telling me how much he loves me & he doesn't understand why I treat him the way I do & think he's messin around when all he's doing is doing good by me. I feel so bad :( I've tried changing so many times. His mother said we need to start praying & going to church & a lot will change & get better. I don't know where else to turn or what to do. I dont know if we should go to couples counseling or what buy I need help cuz I dont wanna lose him :(

[AnnieBrooke]

See a counselor or therapist, too.  The kind of stuff you are doing is low self-esteem stuff, and a therapist can help a lot to get you past that.  Keep your husband in the loop and show him you're really trying.  He will probably hang on if you try hard to fix this.

[Bree61714]

Going to church and praying with one another does help a relationship. I've always been a christian, my husband too, but sincewe.started going to church together and more, I can say our relationship has improved. He has become a better man, and i'm learning on how to be a better wife and what my role is as a wife. Not having trust can definitely tear your relationship apart, and if you want it that bad then you will change. I did, because he is the love of my life and the father of my children. I used to blame him as well for my ex's mistakes, it isn't a good feeling and it sets a wall inbetween your relationship. Really, really try to work on it.

[Nina159]

Tell him exactly what u told us here about how u feel and why u think u treat him the way u do and work it out together he can help you