3rd shift vent :'(

[JBontheway]

My hubby works 3rd shift, goes in at 630pm and gets off at 530am :'( I hate it, he's had this job since like spring of this year and has worked another 3rd shift job before, but it is really startibg to get to both of us now since we have 2 babies now, and he only gets Saturdays off, so we get like no time together and he misses his little boys, I feel like I always miss him :'( he has to leave a hour before he has to be there too cuz we live about 45 mins from his work but there is a lot of traffic at 530pm, and it takes him that long to get back home too, when he gets home I'm still laying down and the babies are still sleeping but hen he has to go to sleep too and he tries to wake up earlier in the day but then hes tired at work, were trying to find him a first shift job but its hard right now, and he's not gona quit unless he finds something else of course, I'm sorry I just don't really have anybody totalk to :'( anyone else in the same boat at all?

[JBontheway]

Yeah were still talking about it, we are moving to Georgia on the 15th and were thinking about him trying to get into the army then, and yeah I do what I gota do to take of the babies and the house and try the best I can lol

[dgrayson6]

My hubs was never in real immediate danger.  He worked on radar for about 6 years and did micro miniature repair the other 5.  There's a ton of jobs in the diff branches that don't have anything to do with being on the front lines.  They pay well and the insurance is unbelievable.  I miss it lol.  If he ever is interested in it, there are options that won't take him away from you guys.  I don't know how strong I really am, but thank you! I think I just do what I need to and hope for the best.

[JBontheway]

Knesha- exactly!! I want us to feel like a family again, I'm sorry about your loss :( but yeah I feel like he doesn't even know what our oldest son is doing now, like trying to walk and stuff, that's just not the way I wan it to be, one day off a week is notenough, I want him to be daddy and hubby, not "the guy that walks in and out if the door and sleeps" you know

[JBontheway]

Thank you ladies, dgrayson6- we wanted him to join the military but he's afraid to and get killed and not be able to enjoy his family, you are very strong tho, I know it has to be hard, I would do it tho if he wanted to join still, its stil on our minds but on the back burner for now, thank you for the support :) roxieb13- it definitely gets hard for him to sed any time with the babies, our first is a year old and our newborn will be 2 weeks tomorrow, he hasn't really bonded with Jackson (New) at all, and he plays with Cameron (1) for a couple of mins before he has to leave, I was cooking a lot more before I got around 30 weeks preg, but I still do laundry, and try to keep the house decent lol but he doesn't complain at all

I'm fine with taking care of the babies by myself, the hard part is him not being here at night, it just doesn't feel right, and I know my emotions and hormones are all worked up since I just had a baby 2 weeks ago but it makes me cry whe he leaves for work at night :'(

[KNesha]

I know how u feel ..my fiance has been on 3rds for almost 2 years but when he wasn't on 3rds he worked in the coal mines and he would leave at 4:30 in the morning even though he didn't have to be there until 7am because we lived 2hrs away and he didn't get home until 9 pm and our son would always wanna play and my fiance would shower...eat & try to stay up & play with our son but he would be so tired ...I was afraid he would fall asleep driving to work ..I was so happy when he quit...I think he was happier than me...we lost a baby in April so that really hit him hard and he quit because I had just come out the hospital and we had a 2 year old at that time ..he just turned 3 this month...
But less than a month he got a job ..was on 1st shift for a couple of weeks then they moved him to 3rds ..and he is still on 3rds...I'd rather him be home with us at night & now that I'm pregnant again (7 weeks & 6 days) Its harder on me because I'm really emotional now and him being off work once a week is not enough ...I just want us all to be a family again!!

[roxieb13]

I know how you feel my fiance is a maintenance man at a steel mill he works 7am to 7pm and doesn't have a day off ... It really Su cks bc I'm 28 weeks pregnant and I'm stuck doing the shopping, putting together baby furniture, everything .... As soon as he gets home I have dinner ready he eats then showers and goes to bed by 930 or 10 pm .. for 2 weeks when he started he was on nights working 7 pm to 7 am I hated it ... It takes him about 35 mins to get to work so he leaves I don't have any kids yet I'm pregnant with my first so I feel worried he might not get to spend time with our first baby. He makes good money so I don't have to work I basically do everything he can't like wash clothes, cook his dinner, make sure he has stuff for lunch, and plenty of deodorant and body wash and all and I pay the bills and everything... But I know how u feel I'm sad when he goes to sleep and I just want to talk or cuddle  

[dgrayson6]

I can relate a little bit.  I'm pregnant with my first child so I don't have any experience with caring for them.  However I do know what it is like to deal with handling everything myself and sleeping alone as hubby has been deployed five times during our marriage including the very first year.  Between that and shorter detachments I've handled things on my own for years and got used to cuddling pillows and cats.  It is lonely and hard.  That part I relate to and my heart goes out to you for working so hard to make it all work and getting through each day.  Sometimes that's all we can do.  Good things will come.  Prayers going out for you.