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1938385 tn?1332068714

A question for mummys

Hi i had a baby 4 weeks ago and im soo tired because im up every two hours at night. My babys daddy dont wake up to feed her i breastfeed but she has one bottle at night and he dont wake up to give it to her im doing this all by myself. I just want to know do any of ur baby daddys wake up and help u at night. He did get up for the first week but then it stoped and he says he just dont hear her? He tells me i should wake him up but i think he should just wake up when shes screaming who can stay asleep when thers a screaming baby in the same room? X
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2137220 tn?1340741325
My sons dad will get up and change em sometimes and then gives him to me cuz he's a breast fed baby. And in the mornings he'll get up and grab him. I attempt to get up and he'll say 'I'll get him'! It's nice to get a couple extra minutes of rest! That's not fair your babies dad isn't involved. My lil guy is almost 3wks and his dad is very involved. He even sponge bathed him once it was cute to watch!!
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2008858 tn?1343844041
my bf can! its built into moms to be sensative to a baby's crys but men not so much.
my bf did most the feeds for the first 2 weeks but when he went back to work he does none now.
i understand as he has to get up at 6am and doesnt get home till 7 but on the weekend he gets up and has her so i can sleep.
maybe ask him to take her/him ealry on a monring so u can get some sleep
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2189208 tn?1339572701
I get up at night n my bf gets up around nine every mornin
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2083571 tn?1339481452
I breastfeed so I get up. Bub is 4 weeks tomorrow. My hubby got up and brought him to me for the first 2 weeks but since he went back to work I've been getting up and feeding in the nursery. He has to be up for work at 5am so it wouldn't be fair to wake him overnight. This is our 3rd baby and we've done it the same each time!
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1938385 tn?1332068714
Yh i think it its not fair for him to get up in the week bcoz he has work but all i ask is for a little help at the weekends. God men lol can live with em cant live without em x
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1938385 tn?1332068714
Anyone else? X
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3062962 tn?1406743961
My husband is a very heavy sleeper.  He couldn't hear the baby, but would let me go to bed early while he watched the baby and put him to sleep.  I woke up at night and woke him if he needed help.  When I started going back to work (he's a stay-at-home dad), I would make sure to feed him and put him back to sleep before I left so that he could sleep in a little since I got to go to bed early.
If he's willing to let you wake him up, then do it!  He probably honestly cannot hear that baby cry.  It sounds like he would help if you asked for it.
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1938385 tn?1332068714
Yh he would help if i asked for it by i dont c y i have to tell him wot to do he knew what it would be like wen we agreed to have a baby and he sed he would help n he just dont. X
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2020005 tn?1628125976
My husband worked verrry long hours when my son was born, and I was breast feeding, so I didn't bother waking him up, I was a stay at home mom, I knew it was my job to take care of the baby, I didn't want him up all night and exhausted working the next day, but he was pretty good about letting me nap during the day and watching the baby then. My husband is also a REALLY heavy sleeper..he can sleep through anything.
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Us guns have the.natural instinct to wake if baby cries at night while most men will just sleep through it. If you need the help and he has asked you to wake him I would do it. There isn't much he can do if he is fast asleep and doesn't even know the baby is awake
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