I'm at my end..i really need someones professional opinon

[Travsmommie]

Ok i'm just going to say everything i've been experiencing and sorry to be so frank in the details. But around march 26 me and my ex bf started talking again that whole week he came in me, i'd get so mad at him and told him i'd cut him off if he didn't freak'n stop because i have a child already and i don't want another one yet. i mean i love children i want a family but i need to get on my feet first. So April 7th comes around and i start a week early but it's not my normal period it was just spotting and very light...but yet the same length as my normal period. And it really freaked me out because that's the period i had with my  son before i found out i was pregnant with him and get this that was in april too..haha. Anyways we didn't have sex for a whole week and when we were about to i told him to put a condom on he threw a lil fit and i said you better pull out and he said ok he would.. AND HE DIDN"T!! i was soooo mad. well anyways i get off of that "period" and my boobs never stopped hurting when normally they do. Now it's been about 4 weeks since my period and the pain just progresses. And three days ago i was laying down and they were just hurting so bad so i touched my right boob on the top and i notice there was a lil lump almost and it was very swollen around that area...i was freaking out becuase i was like omg do i have breast cancer but that couldn't be it becuase i had just had my yearly pap smear two days before that! And anyways i had a lil discharge come outta that nipple it was like the same color as when i had travis almost like it was milk..but i was like there's no way i can leak milk i dried up a LONG TIME AGO because i even tried to breast feed my son again after i got over my sickness and i was all dried up. That was a year and half ago. And i started looking up on the internet but didn't find anything about your boobs leaking milk this early...i mean i don't even know if i am pregnant!! I've taken about 5 or 6 pregnancy test and all negative. i hope it's not a false negative because it'd make things so much harder to have two children. But i don't know what to worry about!?!? If i'm pregnant or if something else is wrong with me..i called my doctors office and all they keep doing is giving me the ring around and it's really annoying me. SOMETHING IS GOING ON WITH MY BODY AND I DONT KNOW WHAT!!  So i sat at the computer and calculated everything because i read on the net that spotting can be implatation bleeding and that it normally happens two weeks after conception. so i calculated everything and it was just about two weeks after he came in me all those times that i got that "period." And that depending on what kinda of cycle you have is when you release an egg and i calculated that too. i'm a 30 day girl and i read on the net that it's normally between 9 to 17 days or something like that. And he came in me around those times too..now i'm trying not to freak myself out or get my mind racing..i'm trying to keep calm about it and i keep telling myself that i'm not pregnant no way i could be..i mean there is a way but he'd always tell me that his sperm count was low...and the times he did that in me before i never wound up pregnant thank god! it's very risky what i was letting him do i know this. But i just need someones advice..or some kinda experience they've gone threw that's simplar something to put me at easee. And don't be afraid to be honest with me. I just want to know what's going on with my body..

Oh and when i got my pap smear i did talk to the clincion about everything i was going to get on birthcontrol that day but she said she had to wait because we needed to find out if i'm pregnant..and she said based on my last actual period in march that i would've only been around 3 to 4 weeks if i was and that it'd be to early to tell. And she didn't say anything about my boobs hurting..and that whole discharge of the nipple didn't happen till two days after my pap.  Really i just want to cry because i'm so tired of worrying about this...but i just can't stop till i know for sure!! People tell me that i am they have no doubt some people say that it could be different reasons. i'm just tireddd of this waiting game, i want to know NOW! so i can stop worrying about it and if i am so i can get my *** in gear and get a better job and my own apartment..[yes i live with my mom lol. shes the one that says i am that my boob leaking is a sign..and i even told her no couldn't i just be all the sudden leaking just because i said you did that with zach for a whole year after he was already one..and she said no my boobs didn't hurt like your's do they didn't swell like your's do.She's a nurse so i assume she does have some knowledge in that area]...but i just... i can't be pregnant. i can't be....

Anyways anyone please give me your honest advice or experience.

Thanks,
Stephanie.

[Travsmommie]

well if that's the case it's weird for it to suddenly happen cause before i'd just get side pains and that clear cunky mucus stuff. idk i have a dr apt in two days so hoping this worrying will jsut be put to an end.

[Kellmomb2]

You could just be Ovulating? your symptoms match Ovulation, my breast would leak too, and I had not breastfed for almost a year and 1/2. Just get BC and see what it says if you are worried, and start using protection, if he failed to pull out the first time, you should of put a stop to it right then...

[Travsmommie]

yeah that's very true i believe that too..but i guess just sometimes i'm not as strong as i'd like to be.

[worriedbabe]

1 thing i've told myself for a long time that has always served me well...exs are exs for a reason. it reminds me not to go back there.

[Travsmommie]

Thank you. And yeah i agree it was kinda scary when his cousin told me that. Honestly i just got this bad feeling that he's hiding something dark about him and that i needed to get the move on. But i'll keep ya'll posted on what happens.

[nsrchofbaby]

*knowledgeable :)

[nsrchofbaby]

Well I'm glad that you're being mature about the situation and that you've removed this person from your life. Seriously, someone who throws a fit because you ask him to wear a condom shouldn't be having sex. It's actually scary to think that he wanted to empregnate you. Good luck at your appt and I really wish you all the best in the future regardless of the outcome. I hope you'll stick around whether or not you're pregnant, there's a lot of good info from a lot of knowlegdeable women available on here if you ever need support or advice. Take care.

[Travsmommie]

I'm not late i started this month but it was a week early and it was just spotting and very light. not my normal period, i'm due to start may 12

[Travsmommie]

well when we were dating he treated me like a princess and treated my son like his own. Did alot of me helped me keep the house clean. bought me things my son things..yaddy yaaa. i know he's a piece of **** we tried working it out a couple of times but it just didn't work because he's...very controlling and jealous and i'm hard headed..and he broke up with me to begin with because i didn't tell all my guy friends i couldn't talk to them anymore. Stupid i know. And i'm sure he'd want to be there if i was pregnant but to be honest with you i don't know if i want him to be there. Everyone tells me i'm stupid all the time for going back to him time and time again. Noone in my family likes him not one of my friends. not to mention he just got outta of prison in september..which i did not know!! just recently found out..he was in there for stabbing a guy twice. ANd he does have another child as well but he told me his mother signed over his parently rights while he was locked up which i didn't believe becuase the only person that has that right is the PARENT! but id on't know if it's different if ur locked up..ANd even his cousin julia called me one day and was like steph... i know i tried setting you up with my cousin but i think you need to get away from him i didn't know he was like this...and she said i know hes trying to get you pregnant because he's using the fact that you are a good mom and he wants to replace his son..so yeah i cut it all off. it is hard because of the feelings i have but my son is more important deserves WAY BETTER! as well as i do.

[Travsmommie]

I do take full respon. for my actions. But it does take two.  I no longer have anything to do with him though. For that simple fact of that and other reasons. I would always tell him to use condoms and to pull out but he'd always tell me no never with you..the only thing i could conclude to ovbiously is that he wants me to get pregnant. But i have put a stop to it. Because i realized how irresponsible i was being. and just plain STUPID...but thanks for ya'lls advice and i know that ya'lls advice won't give me an answer that i'm seeking. I posted that to simply have someone whos experience some what of the same thing to share this with and just talk it out. But thanks anyways. And i'll let ya'll know what happens. i sch. an apt for thursday.

[CA1957]

I know you're young, and scared, and want someone in your life, but this is NOT the guy,  you say you love him so - but the feeling in NOT mutual.  you're just a piece of *** to him,  if he did care (about you or anyone else besides himself) - sex would be protected, all he cares about is his-self.  I don't know the guy, but just how easy he comes around - gets in your pants, makes promises  (which pulling out still is NO guarantee) that he doesn't even intend of keeping.  WHAT if you are pregnant?  will he be there?  how does he treat your baby?  Everything happens for a reason, you're young supporting 2 children on a single parent income is hard. If you dodged the bullet this time get on birth control - don't depend on him - if he wont wear protection you might have  more  to worry about than getting pregnant !!!!
THINK GIRL -  NO GLOVE NO LOVE

[blueeyedtabbycat]

How late are you?? Stress can cause your AF to be late also.

[Travsmommie]

yeah i've taken about 5 hpt test, and yes it was my plan to get on BC but she told me i have to wait now.

[blueeyedtabbycat]

Have you taken a hpt?? That would be the first step. Good luck and let us know. If you are, its not the end of the world . There are options such as adoption. There is also assistance to help you get on your feet after baby. If your not, I would definitly get on BC and I would still use a condom or no sex. You may not get pregnant while on BC but a condom will help protect against STD's. So I would definitly use both. If he says no, then he's not worth it. You are wortrh more than that.

[nsrchofbaby]

I agree with Lance, get a blood test. That's the only way you'll know for sure. Nothing anyone says on here to try and "comfort" you will help you get an answer. The only thing left to do is take responsibility for your actions (his part doesn't matter as you allowed him to put you in this situation) and take the next steps forward in your life. I hope you get the answers you seek soon.

[Lance06]

All I can say is if you do not want to get pregnant....have PROTECTEd sex...or dont have sex at all if you dont trust this ex of yours is NOT going to pull out.....

I would go back to the doc and request a blood test if you arent sure...