Anyone in the same boat?

[KaliBrooke]

My boyfriend works all day, every day, and I just sit here in our very small apartment while he's gone. I seriously do nothing but eat, sleep, clean, watch tv, and take a shower. I don't have friends and nobody will hire me for a job. I'm so depressed that I cry every morning when he leaves. And today is his friend day. So now when he comes home he'll go hang out with his friend for a couple hours...and I'll still be here..just sitting. I feel like I'm almost starting to resent him for always leaving me. I know he has to so we can live, but I'm so lonely.

[gypsylopez]

My husband and I moved to the other side of the country and we live in a remote area. He starts work at 5 am which means he leaves at 430 and doesn't get home till after five. I'm a house wife and always have been. I'm alone all day everyday. We even have an 8pm bedtime just to wake back up the next morning!!! I'm so effin bored and to top it off the winters are freezing (-30 to -40 ) so I can't even go outside. I neeeeed a new hobbie.
Don't get mad at your man for providing for you. He's working and needs his downtime. All the time you spend at home he's working his butt off for you and your baby!!!

[householder19]

4am not pm lol my bad haha..

[courtney111310]

I dont really get to see my boyfriend that much anymore :( he's just gotten a new job so he's always busy and he's also in school (im homeschooled) and then on some saturdays he has a youth in philanthropy group thing that takes all day...im lucky if I get to see him maybe once every week or two weeks...its stressful because im 31 weeks and he has yet to be able to go to a dr appointment or anything :/.....but life goes on...

[kcd2013]

My husband works all day, too. His hours are unpredictable as to when he will be home. I don't find it to be too awfully bad. I get stuff done and go to the post office and the store, do crafts, organize and clean. He comes home for lunch most of the time which I love and I can text him throughout the day as well. At first it was a little hard after I stopped completely working, but now I kinda look forward to having me time and sometimes I do get lonely and sad but I talk to him about it and he makes me feel better. We do spend ALL weekend together and I cherish that time a lot.
Try a hobby! :) making crafts make me happy and so do playing with my dogs!

[householder19]

I'm in the same situation. My husband leaves at 5am and don't get off work until 6pm.  He works for my family on their cotton farm so his hrs change when they're not picking cotton he gets the weekends off but when they are picking he works from 4pm to 9pm all week :/..  I get very lonely when he's gone. None of my family or friends comes and visits me since I found out I was pregnant. I guess I'm not cool anymore lol..  so when my baby boy comes it will mostly just be me and the baby all the time.

[Babyy2DueFeb22]

Oh I'm so glad I'm not alone! I just had my daughter February 18th and I went on maternity leave Feb 16th. Since being home and no working I've realized how much my bf is really gone everyday... He leaves at 6am gets home anywhere from 6-9 pm then goes down to the garage and fiddles around there until 10-11pm. This is everyday!!!! And on his days off he always finds something to do so he's not stuck in the house with me and the baby, my son is in school from 7-3:30 he doesnt get home till 4:45 so when he gets home from school its just me and the kids and he's out ripping and running. I hate that he never wants to be around us but I know he's not a home body. But I leave and go shopping whenever I feel lonely haha!

[KaliBrooke]

@insaneroman that sounds absolutely horrible! I'm so sorry..it all sounds so worse than what I have to go through. :(

[InsaneRoman]

OH. And then when he gets home from THAT? I'm exhausted and need to sleep, since it's around midnight. He sits up in bed often "needing the light" and plays Xbox or on his laptop until like 3am. Meanwhile he takes up the whole bed so I'm forced to sleep in this uncomfortable ball.

[soontobemommy07_2014]

I thought I was the only one!! My boyfriend works everyday usually from 8-8. I have no job. No friends. I text him everyday crying about how bored I am. I can't stand it!!! Right now we only have one car and it's a stick so I can't drive it bc I don't have the patients to learn lol, but he works as a car salesman so her gonna try to get me a car at his work today and he will just get payments taken put of his check! I too live in a small town called anacortes. Hopefully having a car will make my days a little better!

[InsaneRoman]

You're not alone. :( My boyfriend works and we live with his mom and her boyfriend. They also work all day. The house is a mess and unsafe but there is literally nowhere else for us to go at this time since we lost OUR home to a gas leak and electrical problems... So because it's so nasty and the kitchen isn't even usable, I sit in our bedroom upstairs. Yes, our bedroom. We do not have a chair or couch for my achy pregnant back. I sit on a bed all day every day, and when I'm not sitting on the bed, I'm sleeping in it. When he gets home and if his cousin is at his grandma's, he goes over there for the evening to play freaking Magic the Gathering (a CARD GAME) while I continue to sit at home, alone. If I go over as well, I'm ignored, so... When he's not working, he'd rather be with his cousin than boring old sick pregnant fat me. :\

[KaliBrooke]

Thanks everyone for sharing and all your advice!

[giraffe1020]

Take some walks, its good for you! Reading is a good way to pass the time and activate your brain, unlike TV. If he has friend days, get a you day too.

[newjulymommy]

Oh yeahp sure am! I work mornings and he works nights, we just moved to where we are so i don't know anyone and have no friends. I hate when he is gone bc i am so lonely. It sucksssss

[Ajoyce10]

I'm There... We Just Moved Here(Army) And Hubby Works 12 Hours A Day. The Only Thing I Do Is Get The Kids From School.

[kaylaharney]

I'm in the same boat. I live in Alaska with my husband and he's in the army and works long hours, my whole family and friends live in Massachusetts. There is a 4 hr time difference as well so its hard to even reach them on the phone sometimes. I don't know anyone here because we are fairly new here and military wives, with the exception of a few, can be catty so I tend to try to stay away. I don't work because I was waiting until the spring so  i could get used to the area, but then I got pregnant and I don't see the point of working right now. So I literally sit at home all day. Most of the time it doesn't bother me, but since becoming pregnant and all the crazy hormones have kicked in, I have been feeling really lonely and sad about it. If you ever want to just talk feel free to message me on here :)

[mamaMcAnulty]

Im in the same boat :-/ my hubby works and I dont we can only clean so much before its boring

[armywife93]

You're not alone girl! I moved across the state to live here with my husband, he's in the army. I know absolutely no one here and finding job has been almost impossible. Now that I'm pregnant I feel even more lonely when he's gone. he works everyday from 5-5 and it took a long time to realize that he's doing it for us so we can live. But I do all you do everyday and always feel lonely :/ but we have to just remind ourselves that they do it to take care of us! I've slowly gotten better, finding new hobbies and what not passes time better :)

[Bentleysmommy18]

My husband left last week to go out of state for 5 weeks working! The bad weather means he has to stay gone longer. He works on powerlines! It ***** so bad because we are moving into out first house this week and I'm doing it alone! And taking care of our 20 month old son!

I get very lonely but I know it's worth it! Just be thankful yours gets to at least come home to sleep! My husband sleeps in a hotel 90 miles away from me right now! And he is missing out on our second child's pregnancy and the most important step in our marriage! Moving into our home!

[KatieBugIsSweet]

Thought I was the only one. My fiance leaves for work till around 5ish every week day. I live at his fams house n dont ever leave or do anything either I get rly sad when he leaves for work every day :/

[KaliBrooke]

I live in a smaller town. I know we have volunteering for pregnant women and another place that serves food at night. I do agree that I need to get out of the house. Wish someone would just hire me.

[KaliBrooke]

I do love books. I use to read all the time before I met my boyfriend. I also want to try quilting! I would love to make blankets for my baby, but getting a sewing machine and everything else would be so expensive. Luckily, my boyfriend works at auctions every few weekends and says he could probably find me a sewing machine.

[AMDG]

Don't know how pregnant you are or if you're dealing with feeling sick but maybe check some volunteer opportunities nearby. I know it really helps me to get out and especially to do something for sunrise else to remember that so many have major struggles. There are often homes for single strugglinh moms who accept donations and need people to sort through them by clothing size etc. Something that doesn't require being on your feet or running around a lot... Anyway, just a thought. It's something that's been helpful to me. :-)

[kashly121]

I was like that with my first pregnancy for awhile. He would leave 7am to 9pm. I was so lonely. I got a hobby. I would read a book and get caught up in it. When he got home and i was not done with the book i would tell him to leave me alone. Lol.....

[KaliBrooke]

Thank you all for sharing! It truly makes me feel better knowing I'm not alone.