Baby shower with 2nd child?

[modesta96]

Is it true that you should not have a baby shower for the second child? I have a 2 year old girl and I recently gave birth to a 28 gestational age week old son. I was told that it was aganist the "rules" to have a shower fo your second child. Is this true? We have absolutly nothing for  our son since he was so early we didnt get to prepare. He is still in the hospital and probably wont be home for a nother month or longer. Can I just throw myself I don't want to ask and nobody has offered. I really want one b/c he really needs things and we can not provide them ourself. What do you think?

[Kimberlee_20]

I like the idea of throwing a shower for the baby, like a welcome home shower, or celebrating the baby, I would bring a gift to a shower like that, and I'd assume your friends and family would as well. That way it wouldn't be "awful" that you threw the party yourself. Good luck! :]

[gokuangel]

If you guys need pampers you could consider doing what my DH's family does, the guys throw the pamper shower! They have to bring a box of pampers and a 6 pk and they  drink and have fun you know play pool play cards and hey the baby gets TONS and i mean TONS of diapers!! Not every1 may be into drinking but most men like to have a "guys" nite out and this gives them a reason and they get to help too!

[Griggsy]

I totally agree with baby showers! Throwing yourself one is bit funny, it's like sending yourself flowers at work, but someone else giving you one isn't bad.

I was surprised to see how many said that it's a no, no or that they had never heard of a second shower.

If people want to give you one then do it. I throw my sisters baby showers for each baby. They may not be as big as they were with the first, but we always have a great time. Sometimes we give the mom a gift for the mom as a well done, pregnancy is hard, here's a gift certificate to get a pedicure, or a do something for yourself gift. That's just my family though. I guess we just don't have the  proper etiquette. Oh well, we love doing it for each other!

[mamaof6]

I am preggo with my 7th. My family is big into baby showers, etc., so I have had one with all of them. Its mainly family though. I just had one last weekend from my side of the family adn next weekend, my b/f's mom is throwing one for her side. (this is her first grandchild)  I personally see nothing wrong with having a shower for each child. Like Joy said, its a celebration of your new baby :)

[chantal21]

I don't think there is any problem with having a second shower. Personally,  I wouldn't throw one for myself (I'm just not that way and I'm too shy) Even though the "rules" say no, I don't see why you can't have one though. Even if it's just family and close friends, I'd say go for it! My church throws a baby shower for every baby you have, whether it's your first or your 6th. I'm sure the pastor's wife is already planning something for this baby I am going to have, she LOVES throwing showers and organzing parties...I guess it's just her thing. Hubby and I have to purchase some big items, like a double stroller and a glider (forgot to get it when I had my son) and a co-sleeper (we gave ours to my in-laws and will just purchase a new one for baby). But I could still use diapers, clothes, and odds and ends. It's just a time when family and friends can come together and celebrate the arrival of your baby! It's such a special time and I never follow the rules when it comes to a new baby! A lady at our church  had her 4th baby and they still threw her a shower. Do what you are comfortable with! =)

[Mrs_Fergie]

There is ABSOLUTLY no reason why you should'nt have a shower for your son.  The point of a baby shower is so your friends and family can celebrate and welcome your new addition. I am pregnant with my third baby and My shower is in two weeks. I had a baby shower for all three. I haven't had a baby in 6 years but the age difference between my first two is 3 years. I say go for it and have fun. Your son desearves to be welcomed by everyone. Good luck