Baby shower with 2nd child?

[modesta96]

Is it true that you should not have a baby shower for the second child? I have a 2 year old girl and I recently gave birth to a 28 gestational age week old son. I was told that it was aganist the "rules" to have a shower fo your second child. Is this true? We have absolutly nothing for  our son since he was so early we didnt get to prepare. He is still in the hospital and probably wont be home for a nother month or longer. Can I just throw myself I don't want to ask and nobody has offered. I really want one b/c he really needs things and we can not provide them ourself. What do you think?

[tellytatum]

I am pregnant with my 3rd child...and just had a baby feb of last year..no one offered to throw me another baby shower.. which i was not expecting although people keep asking us if we are going to have one... they did throw me one for my second since my kids were about 4 years apart and my first was a boy and my second was a girl. i did give away all of my daughters clothing..and have no clothing at al for this new baby..i've been trying to buy a little here and there..and still need diapers too..i asked my husband what should we do..we both agreed to go ahead and register at babies r us..and when the baby comes we will have announcements made for the baby and when we send them the announcements we will send along the cards showing that we are registered somewhere for whoever would like to get the baby something...it's just an idea..and it gives them a choice..they really dont have to..but like i said..i had some people ask if we were going to have a shower..so those who wanted to get us something could if they like when they get the announcements.....

[nsrchofbaby]

I personally feel that it would be more appropriate to take the route NicMom did and just kind of ask around to see if anyone has anything they are willing to give you. Asking people to buy a new set of everything for a shower so soon after baby #1 may seem a little odd to anyone who attended the first shower. You should only really need diapers, clothes, and other small things for the new baby as most things you would receive at a baby shower are "luxury" items, not must-haves. I hope your son is doing well and gets to go home soon. Take care.

[gokuangel]

my SIL threw herself one for her 2nd another girl and the girls are just 22 months apart!! Personally i thought it was very rude and unnessary considering she already had everything she needed all she got for gifts was a few clothes items!!
I do understand you point though your kids are different sex so if there really is something you are missing i would probably say go ahead and have one!

[JoyRenee]

It is a no-no to throw one yourself. But I like the idea of emailing friends with babies and asking to have/borrow baby stuff they don't need right at this time. They should be understanding!

As far as our family goes- we have a baby shower with each baby. Each baby deserves to be celebrate. Of course the 2nd shower and subsequent showers are NOT as elaborate as the first whatsoever. Usually just small gifts or things Momma doesn't have from previous child (especially if a different gender).

Yard sales are coming up, too. I LOVE neighborhood/city-wide sales because you stand great chances of finding what you need at good prices.

[justice6920]

I did have a baby shower with my second BUT they are ten years apart and this one was a boy and my first was a girl! I havent really heard of anyone having one for their second when they are close together... BUT heck if you need the stuff do it! No harm in trying

[hope_peace]

My SIL is having her second baby, and we are having a party for her, and on the invite we wrote something like if you would like to bring something for the mother or baby feel free to, but not obligation. That way people don't feel forced to have to get you something, but some people might. My mom is throwing it for her, so maybe talk to someone in your family about throwing a welcome home baby party.