Questions about CERVICAL STITCH! (for women who have had them only please)

[MPerkins1228]

I very recently lost my baby boy at 24 weeks when I made the decision to end his suffering because he had a fatal condition called Osteogenesis Imperfecta (Brittle Bone Disease) and in the process of inducing labor the doctors discovered I was already dialted and have diagnosed me with incompetent cervix.
Anyway, I am planning to get pregnant again right away but will most likely have to get a cervical stitch put in and just have a few questions for other women who have experienced this.

How far along were you when it got put in?
What was the procedure like and was it painful? How long did you have to stay after it was put in?
Were you put on bedrest, and for how long?
When did it get taken out? Was that painful?
and how soon after having it removed did you go into labor?

I know its different for everybody, I just want to hear some other womens experiences and I couldn't find much information online so thought id ask to hear it from people with experience.

Thanks in advance for sharing your stories.

[chrissymom]

It's okay, you don't have to be sorry for being defensive, I am sure I may have reacted the same way, I am very sorry to hear about your little boy, I am sure however hard the decision must have been for you to make you have done the best thing in the long run, no mother wants to know their child is suffering or in pain, and I hope someday the pain and grief you feel now gets better. I also hope all goes well with the stitch, I am sure you will be fine :) and If you are indeed pregnant, which is very possible, the ironic part of pregnancy , we are very fertile afterwards, I hope eveything goes perfectly this time around, and thankyou for your reply, good luck and all the best to you :)

[MPerkins1228]

I appreciate the advice, Thank-You again. and I apologizing for getting so defensive, I am just still touchy on the subject, and yes I took what you said a little  hard. I found out at my 20 week ultrasound that my baby may have a couple fractures and had mildy shortened and bowed limbs, but there have been many cases here in my city where women were told something was wrong but saw a specialist and everything was fine, so I was hopeful. I saw a specialist only 4 weeks later, got an ultrasound done to fine his limbs were now VERY shortened and bowed, and that his chest and head were mishapen, and he now had several fractures in both his arms, legs, ribs and even his scull. It was absolutely heartbreaking to here that he had the most severe form of OI and it was almost always fatal at birth or shortly after, and thats if the baby is lucky enough to survive through the pregnancy. It was the hardest decision I ever made but I chose to put him out of his suffering. That was 4 and a half weeks ago, and I am not planning to try to get pregnant again right away, I was going to wait until after christmas and into the new year, but theres a chance I may already be pregnant as i didnt realise how fertile I was so shortly after birth, and this is why I am asking these things right now.
Anyway, back to the topic: I have read up on Cervical Stitches and have read a number of different things in relation to hospital stay, pain, etc so was just trying to get some peoples experiences, I hope your right and that it doesnt hurt for me, I am really nervous about having to get it.
thanks again, and i am sorry for being so defensive.

[MPerkins1228]

Thank-you very much, I appreciate it. :)

[chrissymom]

I am sorry if you took what I said the wrong way, I did not know it was type two and was simply giving an opinion, I wasn't judging you and I also don't think that you made the decision to terminate your little boy lightly, I do know how it feels to lose a baby, I also lost a son at 25 weeks gestaion, he was born early and only survived the hour or so. I gave the advice based on what I have been told about the stitch, I have known two people to have it done and they said it was not very painful, and well worth knowing that it could save a future pregnancy, I am sorry again if I offended you, that was not my intention. I hope everything goes well for your next pregnancy, also I said about the length of time becuse I thought the same after my son died, I wanted another baby so badly, I had waited 3 months after and I ended up giving birth at 29 weeks, the baby survived thankfully but the 5 week journey in hospital was hell, wouldn't like you to go through the same is all. good luck and I hope you ge the baby you want and everything is perfect this time round. :)

[lilmummy]

Hey I just want to say Im very sorry for the lose of your little one, and no one should comment against what you did, a mother knows best. I don't know anything about the stitch thing, just wanted to say how sorry I am for your lose!.  Best wishes for your future pregnancys

[MPerkins1228]

First of all you dont know anything about what condition my baby had so you really have no right to say anything about it, the type he had was fatal, babies with it rarely live through the entire pregnancy let alone birth or long and he already had defamations and several fractures in his arms, legs, ribs and skull, I would not have made that very difficult decision if I did not know for sure that he had a fatal condition and I do not appreciate you implying that I made a decision without knowing the truth, I would not be that stupid, I spoke with many doctors and genetic counselors. (Osteogenesis Imperfecta Type 2, read up on it) and this is not what I was asking about anyway, I was just explaining a little about my situation. Nor did I ask for advice on how long I should wait before trying to get pregnant again, I know very well how long I "should" wait but in the end it is up to me anyway, not to mention that you do not even know how long its been as I did not say how long ago I lost my son.
Do not mean to be rude but I think I have to right to be defensive with what you said, I do not need to be judged and if you cannot at least be respectful to the fact that I have lost a baby then you could have just not said anything about it at all, and just answered my question, or not answered at all.
I appreciate you trying to help but I want advice from someone who has actualy experienced it, as lots of things that are "supposed" to not be painful sometimes are, and not everything goes as it "should"...Thanks anyway though