Don't know what to do

[Rachel_croft]

I am not sure what to do. My husband and I wanted to have a baby so bad, but ever since I got pregnant he has turned into this psycho guy. I no longer want to be with him and I don't know if it's the hormones or not. He never even said happy valentines day or I love you today. He has been going out at night and coming home drunk and acting suspicious. Put phones on his lock and when I tried to get in his phone he chocked me. I seriously am starting to hate him and I don't know how you can go from loving somebody so much to wishing you weren't in this situation. I've had two miscarriages in a row and I was ecstatic to find out I was expecting, but he is taking every last bit of joy I have pregnancy.  This is supposed to be the most joyous time, I thought. Is anyone else feeling like this? Am I overreacting?

[MamaBear0612]

I agree, you really don't want your son to be around that, kids model the behavior and the relationships of the people who are parenting them, and he's not a good enough man to teach your son how to be one. It might be complicated, but you just don't want to take the risk...if you transferred your life once, you can do it again. Trust me, I've done several cross-country moves at this point, and I didn't have the incentive that you have for doing it. You really need to get out of there and back with people who actually love and support you, better men who will be a better role model for your son, even if it's his grandfather or uncle.

[Zombonnie]

I would be calling people to get u guys outta there and you have a 5 year old boy too its not good for him to see a man behaving that way towards a woman or he is going to grow up thinking doing those things are ok nd turn out just like him and trust me.. u don't want that! kids are resilient he is young and will understand soon the abuse and cheating will only get worse especially if he's turning yor own son against u its not yor fault the men u chose turn out this way just go back home and take care of u and yor children because that is what is #1

[Factorymomma]

Your five year old won't understand until he's older.... But for your safety and sanity out may be the best option.  Your job will understand and so will the school.  Don't make yourself miserable because he has something wrong.

[Rachel_croft]

It's just hard cuz I transferred schools out here, i found a job, and moved all my furniture and belongings to texas. This is my second failed relationship that ended with a kid. I have a five year old too. Now I will have two kids from two different guys, It's so hard to think of it like that. Plus, my son thinks that's his real dad since his real one has been in prison for a very long time. (I know how to pick them :(). My son sometimes sides with him cuz he involves him in our problems and makes me feel guilty.

[Factorymomma]

Sounds like my ex husband to be honest.  He moved me about three hours from anyone I knew for "better job opportunities" then started acting all crazy.  Drinking a lot partying all the time.  When I got pregnant it got worse.  He started doing drugs and not coming home sometimes.  When I had the baby he only stayed long enough for family to see he was there and then never came back to see us at the hosp.  Come to find out he was having relations with SEVERAL women.  Even when I was in the hospital with our baby.  If I had just cut and run when I thought something was wrong I would have less stress in my life (I probably wouldn't have my crazy kid though :-( ).  Just get out seriously.  It took me one call to my parents and they came with a moving truck and pretty much the entire family to get me out of there.
I was miserable for a while, thinking I had ruined everything by leaving.... Then I found out my ex husband got another girl pregnant right after I left... Then I realized he was the one who ruined everything. Not me.

[MamaBear0612]

Pack a bag and get out, and I do think it's a very good idea to go back to family. If a plane ticket isn't financially possible, there's always the bus, and your family will help you once you get back home with whatever else you need. It's not okay that he's making you feel that way, and putting his hands on you was definitely a "deal-breaker." It probably will escalate and if you stay, you run the risk of him being violent towards your child. Leave him...you might get a protective order against him on the way out of town, make it official in case he threatens you or does something stupid with regards to custody.

[jamesruss1]

choke.....its going to get ugly...his hiding something or someone.

[heva18kyasmum]

Is there anyway you can get to family or a friend just for your and your baby's safety it seems to really do need to get out if there and soon xx

[buggie216]

Move back home!! Seriously...for your and your unborn childs safety!!! Its no longer about him and you...its about the baby and doing what you need to do to protect it. He crossed a line putting his hands on you and as Dr. Phil would say..." That's an ABSOLUTE deal breaker!!" I'm sorry your going thru this :/

[Rachel_croft]

Thank you for the advice. I have family but he had me move to the middle of nowhere in Texas. It seemed like a good move at first but he is changing now that I don't have friends and family out here.

[Zombonnie]

No woman should put up with any kind of abuse especially a pregnant woman u don't just have yor life to worry about u have your inborn child to think about I'm sorry I wish I had better advice or more encouraging words but from some one who's been in an abusive relationship... it only gets worse :'( please take care of yourself

[Zombonnie]

It sounds like u are in a very dangerous situation and if he actually put his hands on u... I would high tail it outta there!! That pits u and baby at risk especially since you've already miscarried twice... how long have u been married? Do u have a safe place to go?

[Rachel_croft]

Sorry for any misspellings or punctuation errors. I'm using a phone to type.