stitches and sex post baby

[missmonique94]

My partner is starting to get frustrated that I don't want to have sex. He doesn't understand how uncomfortable having stitches in that area is, even going to the toilet is uncomfortable. My baby boy is 3weeks tomorrow and I had an episiotomy so I'm still healing and couldn't imagine anything going in there, even the thought of the pap smear in 3weeks is freaking me out. Has anyone else had this problem? How can I explain it to him to get him to understand? I've been trying but he doesn't get it

[kendallleblanc]

I agree 3 weeks is too early. Your body needs to heal. He isn't going to die and I think it's a little selfish of him to get irritated or make u feel bad about it. I understand he's a guy, but u just had a baby. I gave my husband oral until 5 and a half weeks.

[blackice520]

Find other ways that you can please him, for instance oral would be up there on his list I'm sure (as long as your willing) and let him know that it takes 6 weeks to fully heal, and tell him that if anything gets damaged during intercourse, which is easy to do considering the whole still healing thing, then you may never feel the same to him again... Tell him that he could rip stitches out  without even trying and you'd have to go back to the doctor to get new ones and start the whole 6 week healing process again. Idk find some way to scare him a bit... Stretch the truth a bit if you have to

[mjp0325]

Just have him call your doctor and have them explain why they say to wait 6 weeks before sex.

[missmonique94]

Men just don't understand what we go through carrying a baby and giving birth and I couldn't imagine wanting to be sexually active again for quiet some time

[lovemy5babys]

Explain to him that if you do have sex now and you end up hearting that region that if will take even longer to get back in the game.

[Smaejack]

3 weeks us wayyy too soon,  explain to him sex would not be pleasurable for either one of you right now. You were carrying a baby for 9 months, there was plenty of things you've missed out on, a couple more weeks won't kill the guy.

[JNieves6913]

Um.. he doesnt understand 6weeks healing in normal... you bleed for a month anyway..