Explanation

[BabyBumpBump]

Okay ladies I will clarify my old post because some of you guys were being rude without even having a good undertaking of my situation. Couple months ago I said I was leaving my baby's father for physical and physiological abuse, plus the love wasn't there anymore. I am 22 weeks pregnant now, and in a relationship with my first born father, he separated for 1yr, now he is okay with me being pregnant and says he loves the baby as his own. He is caring and lovable wich is why I'm with him and I love him too.. Buttttt the situation of me seeing my old partner for custody rights scares me because of what I went through with him. My mom tells me she will take the baby so I would be at peace, but I love my baby,'everyone tells me to give him to her but I figured that's not the way out. I es asking for your advice ladies, not to be called fake or other rude things. I enjoy this app because of the advice u guys have given me and now all I get is judgement!

[april0_0]

I would say try and keep your baby.
My mom gave us to our gma when we were little and regretted it later.
My gma had agreed to give us back but then decided not too.
It was extremely depressing and sad for me and my brother.
Even though our mom was around alot it just didn't give us the right connection to her because we knew what she'd done.
I say try and tough it out with your baby yourself.
I know my mom regrets it, cuz she tells us all the time but it doesn't mean anything to us now.
I'm not trying to be judgemental I swear.
I'm just trying to give you the perspective from the babys side.
At the end the choice is yours.

[lovely_karla]

Tell ur current bf to put his last name on ur baby
Ur ex cant get no where near u guys..

[oct3014]

I'm gonna be honest, I would not give my child to my mother if I was in your situation it just doesn't make sense. He will still have to be involved in that process and he can easily say that you dnt want him so I am obviously capable of taking him/her. Even tho he works like crazy the judge can see it as providing for the child and they may look at you like you just dnt want that responsibility. So what if you have to see him and go through the co parenting process all you need is proof that he was abusive towards you and the system will work it out. Dnt give up your child just because you dnt want to deal with your ex. Fight for what is yours he doesn't have control anymore!!

[scarletbegoniass]

If you can prove physical abuse then you won't have to see him because the courts will grant you full rights. As far as having your current boyfriend sign, the biological father can come forward at any time and request a paternity test and then take you to court in order to get his rights.

[Zahra147]

U'r husband can adopt u'r baby, as u says that he loves him like his own, a father is not who makes babies but who is be their for them all the time & show them thats he is a father, u can give tge baby to u'r mom so u will be able to see him as much as u want..

Thats what i think about, sorry for my comment in that post i just didn't get the Idea,

Hiwever, do what ever makes u happy & u think it is better for u baby

Goo luck

[ericatoday]

First you should ask the abusive ex to give up parental rights or tell him you want to put the baby up for adoption but you need him to sign over rights then have your new guy adopt the baby as his own. If that doesn't work then you need to go to the court and file for custody of the child even if its shared custody try to get him only with supervised visitation since he was abusive. But if you love your baby then having to deal with your ex shouldn't matter. And I think I remember you saying that he lives in another state and works a lot. Trust me he won't come around often and you can get it where the child won't be allowed to be taken out of state. My ex sees his son maybe 2-3 times a year and he only lives 6 hours away you will rarely have to deal with him.