Okay, sorry if it's a bit of a long post. I'm not sure who else to talk to..
My first is 5 years old and is a boy. ( from a previous relationship.
Ive been with my partner now for 2years and I'm now 18 weeks pregnant with my second child (a girl) and we are both over the moon.
It started off to be a happy pregnancy. Everything was going great. But just recently I've been feeling more like a surrogate than I am her mom. Reson being, my partner is really fussy about what clothes our child wears. Everything people have Brought, he hasn't liked it. Even though I think there cute. I feel like I can't go out and buy her pretty clothes that I like.
Also, we had plans Christmas day. (I always go to my parents and he goes to his). This year though i was going to go to my parents for 2hours then go meet him at his parents. But the past couple of days he has dropped hints about how he doesn't want me there alone with our baby. Because people have alcoholic drinks and he doesn't want anyone hold her. Even though people will be drinking at his parents.
I feel like he doesn't trust me to take care of our child. I mean, I don't smoke, don't do drugs and I've not drank alcohol for 3 years now..
I was a single parent and I managed great so I think I'm capable of looking after our baby, and my son with his help?
Everytime I've tried to speak to him about how I'm feeling he always turns things around and makes me feel like I'm being unresonable.
Also I have his mom and sister come round my house every weekend, which I don't mind but there saying things like "were painting a nursery so baby can stay with us, but you can come any time you want" and stuff like "I'm going to look after her all the time but I want her dressed a certain way"
It may be my hormones that's making me upset. I don't know. But I'm getting to the point were I'm crying and I'm fed up all the time.
Sorry for the super long post. Has anyone got any advice? Or does anyone think I'm being stupid?