trying to get pregnant

[mandi819]

me and boyfriend are thinking about having a baby... any ideas on how to make this processes a little faster?

[sweetpea03]

It's absolutely great to have a college degree as a back up, like Mommyjeep11 said in case anything should happen. In this economy, you can't get a good paying job without a degree and it would be extremely tough just to "keep your head above water" with bills. There should be absolutely no rush to have a baby. Most relationships, especially teen relationships won't make it when a baby is added into the mix, even if the baby is planned. Statistically speaking, only 20% of fathers marry the teen mothers of their first child. I don't think you want to end up a single mother and I would never wish that on anyone. College is a great learning experience both for finding out who you are/what you want and getting a good education, expanding your knowledge of the world. Take some time to have fun with friends, get to know yourself, and just be a teenager. You have to think about your future and not just about the here and now. You have the rest of your life to be a mom, so what would be the rush? Take care.

[Mommyjeep11]

I became a mom at 20 after my husband and I had been married for a little over a year. While he had a great job and we had bought a house we had insurance and it was hard. I was going to college at the time and had to quit due to morning sickness and now that my son is 3 1/2 i still have not returned. While at the time we thought we were ready for a baby and financially we were. We didn't really think about what we would be giving up in order to have a baby. While all our friends go out to clubs and have parties at their houses we stay home and watch Cars and corny cartoons all night. Now we have settled into our roles as mom and dad quite well but at first it was really hard having to be cut off from our friends. Now that some of our friends are having kids we are able to be more social as they understand to watch their mouth and bedtimes. At least wait til you finish school. My husband makes an excellent living so I don't have to go to work but if something happened and I did need to go to work I have no degree to fall back on that would allow us to even pay the bills we have now.

[mandi819]

yes i have & i already stared collage & yes i work & yes  i have been on my own for years. and i have thought about it all.. i have decieded to wait i only have two more years of collage.... but thanks

[sweetpea03]

You are 17 years old, are you sure you can handle a baby? Have you graduated from high school yet? Are you planning to go to college? Do you work? How much money do you make? Do you live on your own? There is a lot of things that go into having a child and this decision should not be taken lightly at all. It is a major life change to have a child and very expensive. Think about it.