Husband or baby

[nattypatel]

If your husband (whom you love more than anything) threatened to leave you if you didn't have an abortion would you:

* the issue is timing and financial constraints and the husband refuses the option of adopting out.

[nattypatel]

Thanks guys.
I know 100% that an answer to a hypothetical question is worlds away to real life situations, but now I can honestly say that faced with this predicament again I would not cave in again.

Even though I was emotionally beaten to a pulp, I myself made the wrong decision. However, it was a life lesson that I know I must learn from and gain strength from. My sacrifice was not worth it but it has happened and I now see my husband for who he really is after the fact. His compassion for my baby or my heart in this matter is near to nil. I'll stick this relationship out because he loves me and I love him dearly, and I honour our marriage. Next time though, if it ever accidentally happens again (he has super-sperm!) I will treasure my baby twice as much and hubby dear can take a walk!!!!!!!

[jrobertson20]

Bottom line it is your body and your baby.  It takes two to make a baby and he knew what he was doing when he did it.  If he really loves you he won't follow through on his threats.  As I recall it's for better or worse for richer or poorer.  Those were the promises that were made.  Sometimes guys get scared and make stupid bullying threats just out of the fear.  Stick with what YOU want and give him the ultimatum.  Don't back down.  Good luck.

[astra99]

don't do it.. There are plenty of couples like my self that would rather kill myself to have children x don't let your husband make this decision. He helped make your little baby and its your body.. The baby is so small and its not its fault your husband is this way but please don't do anythin you'll regret.. Babies are wonderful... Good luck and god bless xx xx  

[Heatherm4]

It takes two to tango and if he can't deal with that, then he has issues. Whether you have money problems or not....things always end up ok in the end. I hope he comes to his senses for your and your baby's sake!

[BTS1022]

Oh..BTW, I did end up getting pregnant, and my ex husband did not tell me to have an abortion. When he seen first hand that i'd rather leave him high and dry than murder my own child, he thought twice about making that threat again. That baby I was pregnant with, is a beautiful and healthy 2 yr old little boy.

I divorced for other reasons....but the threat was one of the main reasons why I left him.

I am now in the process of getting remarried, and I am pregnant again. I have told my now hubby that if we were to ever get pregnant unexpectedly I would not have an abortion, and he quickly replied, that he would never ask me to have one....now that is love!

[Majikat]

Never abort for somebody else you would regret it for the rest of your life