getting depressed

[feliciaschult2325]

Ok so when I found out that I was pregnant me and my boyfriend were going through a hard time now that im 26 weeks everything is great but then this past Saturday I met the girl the he cheated on me with when I first found out I was pregnant....I had totally moved on we worked through it and I didnt even think about it till Saturday  :/ I thought I was over it but I guess im not it has made me so depressed and upset that its all I think about I talked to him about it and he feels really bad I even cried then he cried hes not the same guy he use to be hes changed for the better I couldnt ask for a better man to be with now but I cant get this out of my head its all I think about and i feel like I habe nobody to talk to about it I feel like in stuck or something and I dont want to bother him with it anymore then I have bc thats in his past but I need to do something :/

[feliciaschult2325]

Just so you know you lady's are awesome!! Thank you so much talking about it makes me feel better but all of the advice helps me:) im not afraid to tell him anything infact I tell him anything and everything I just feel with my emotions all crazy that im going to push him away to where he will do it again.. but if hes going to do it he would already be doing it I dont want to lose him just bc I seen this girl it was a wile ago but if it is bothering me this much I need to talk to him about it I just hate bringing stuff up and get nervous to say something but I also cant let it eat at me thank you lady's soo much

[jessijlb1229]

I'm sorry honey. I understand completely what you're saying.  You have every right to feel the way you do. Seeing her reopened the wound. Just try to take things a day at a time and find happiness in the little things.  Before you know it things will be better.

[BabyBuck15]

I totally understand where your coming from my husband was cheating on me even after we found out we were expecting. He got locked up with the little ***** and claims now that he is going to show me that all he want is his family. Well I don't think I've forgave him I always bring it up. He says I make him feel worse than he already feel knowing he was cheating on me now we have a baby on the way and he isn't around. I feel he should feel bad cause if he hadve been changed and realized what he got at home there wouldn't be a problem. Ima say to he has changed for you and ya'll family yes it hurts and you have forgave him sometimes it will cross your mind but find somewhere to put it. You don't want to lose your changed man believe me you have someone good hold on to him. I'm close to losing mine and that hurts more than the thought that he was cheating.

[Daniellerene]

I was in the same boat , kinda , my fiance never cheated BUT he did start like locking his phone and if I walked by he would put it down ( like hiding something ) ... for 3 months I was getting stressed over it and I would cry and talk too him about it then I got crazy nervous so i googled him and tryed too hack into his old yahoo ( which he don't have anymore ) and I went on POF too see if he still had it active and all sorts of stuff then like 3 nights after that we talked and he was like if I really wanted to cheat I would and I would tell you straight up and I wouldn't even be around ( which I know he wouldn't cause we hung out together when we were in high school and he was always like that with girls )
but we had a heart too heart talk about my feelings and how I was scared and how I didn't feel like I was pretty enough , and he gave me a hug and we talked ...
I would definitely bring it up again and have a heart too heart talk and lay it all out on the table how you feel and the hole fact you saw the girl and what not , and just really just ask him to comfort you and explain your emotions and feelings

[feliciaschult2325]

I guess what is my problem I do forgive him and I dont want to throw it in his face bc I know it hurts him before I met her I was fine and now its just kinda like ouch. And I dont want to keep bringing it up to him and push him away I wish I could just forget that I met her but I just wonder with him seeing her if he misses her I dont know im just being over dramatic about it I know ill get over it but I want to be over it now and just dont know how to do that I guess

[feliciaschult2325]

dont like making him feel bad or point finger he has changed Im happy with him and want to be with him just seeing her was like a slap in the face I guess kinda like damn thats her... but your right if I got over it before I seen her then I can do it now..I over think everything just sometimes I feel like I dont have anyone to talk to all I do is work and sleep so when I need to talk I keep it inside till I blow..im really sorry that you have to go through that! That isnt right but congratulations! Youll be an amazing mom :) and thank you for the advice its just nice to talk to someone and see what they have to say

[jessijlb1229]

I'm sorry honey. Hurts like this just take time to heal. I know from experience.  My now husband cheated on me once in the beginning of our dating relationship. We were able to work things out and have now been together for 11 years now married for 4 of them.  Things will get better. Not today, not tomorrow,  but they will get better. Especially if he's trying to change and be there 100% for you and the baby. He knows he almost lost everything he truly cared about. He doesn't want that to ever happen again. But in order to start building that trust again you have to stop throwing it in his face. You have to try to move on. I know it's one of the hardest things I've done. But if you told him you forgave him. Then you have to truly forgive him in your heart. I hope things work out for you. God bless.

[britt2241]

I would maybe suggest therapy. I found out that my husband has cheated on me throughout my entire pregnancy ( my baby can be here any day now). Im on my own and feel completely depressed if i dont talk to someone so i started therapy and its really helping me cope. I hope the best for you, I understand how devastating it can be.

[FebuaryBaby]

With you being depressed and having it on ur mind isnt doing anything but making it worse for ur relationship.  Its putting a strange on it. Hes probably afraid your going to leave him. All men have that rebellious side and wanting tk try other girls now thats not an exuse for what he did its still wrong but he changed. Most men wont do that. You have to forgive him and let it go or it going to haunt you in the long run. My husband I could sworn up and down he was cheating on me till I met the girl. I still have doubts but also doesnt help with the horomones either. Only thing that will help is to forgive him and move past it talk to him see what he says but dont make it a" you" and its "your" fault but a "I" feel this way conversation