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:( vent!
Is it wrong for me to be upset with my boyfriend bc he hasn't told his dad I'm pregnant and he waited 20 weeks to tell his mom and sister. Even then, I told them! I feel bad bc I'm nagging, but by the time he tells them the details Noelle will be here!
Ohhh yeah, haha!! And sadly it's the bigger town within 2 hours of here (besides Syracuse) Definitely get a lot of snow though!
Watertown, NY, not sure if you've heard of it or not, haha Rochester definitely has more than here!
If he waits much longer it won't be hey I'm gonna be a dad it will be hey wanna meet your granddaughter? Kick him in the butt and do it yourself I say. Good luck!
Well it shows that you're more mature than him, and they'll probably respect you for that. AND you're from rochester NY? We're only a couple of hours away from each other, haha!
Baby2, I just don't want to be the one to tell his whole family, I already told his mom and sis.
I have him some of this ideas, like the picture and other things and he said he didn't wanna do it. I guess I'll just give them the ultrasound picture myself. I'm about ready to raise her myself.
when will you see thm nxt? my bf was nervous to tell his mom so he invited her to breakfast with us when I was 12 weeks and I kept hitting him under the table everytime a good opportunity came to say it, but he didn't take it, so finally I just blurted out "we just want you to know I am 12 weeks pregnant and couldn't be happier" I thought he was going to throw up!!! he turned bright red and went to the bathroom and his mom began crying and went to the bathroom aswell. I felt bad but NO MORE BEATING AROUND THE BUSH!!!! haha they both pulled it together in the bathroom and came back to the table, first came my bf and I just looked at him and told him to stop being a p*ssy lol and then his mom came back, hugged me nd said congrats... now everyone is beyond excited and want to know how things are going on a daily basis lol.... give it a try!! whip out those ultrasound pics and let everyone know whats up
Well, your age has nothing to do with what kind of mother you're going to be at all. I was 17 with my first, worked my butt off (my husband and I both), and our son doesn't lack ANYTHING. We pay for our own bills, our son gets everything he needs and wants (to a point, we don't want to spoil him, except christmas and birthdays, and every other holiday, haha!). It's hard and it will really put a test on your relationship and your patience but you can do it if you work hard enough.. My husband and I also weren't together long before we got pregnant, So I think that was some of the issue for our first pregnancy, but, NO excuse.. it's going to be more of a shock when you two walk in one day with a baby girl and show him his new granddaughter, haha! Maybe tell him if he doesn't feel like he can say it, write a letter, and give it to him face to face, put in an ultrasound picture? Or maybe just give him an ultrasound picture.. seeing it really makes them come around!
He said he forgot to show her the ultrasound! How do you forget that lol. But I don't think she even asked, which makes me mad. It's like they're not even acknowledging her. Every time we're alone he's like super excited, but he's completely different around his parents.
Awee chloe noelle is so pretty! They're not religious, I think he's afraid of them knowing my age (they don't know), but he's had countless opportunities to tell them or hint at things and he just doesn't do anything. My mom wanted us to wait until 12 weeks to tell them, bc of miscarriage, but after that he just never wanted to say anything
That *****! why didn't he tell her the details? Did she even ask? It ***** you've had to talk to him alot of times.. men seem to be like that though.. it's frustrating. How does he generally feel about this pregnancy?
ps vent away! venting always helps you feel better and you don't need to feel rubbish and stressed whilst pregnant.. x
ps vent away! venting always helps you feel better and you don't need to feel rubbish and stressed whilst pregnant.. x
And also, you're young (I assume from your age on your profile, NOT that it's a bad thing, I had my first at 17, best thing that ever happened to me, too!!) maybe he's afraid they'll judge him from that? Who knows what goes on inside a man's head.. are they religious? Some families are just more strict and don't see any baby as a blessing like others do. I love the name Noelle, too by the way, I'm naming my little girl Chloe Noelle! :)
I agree, although some families are more strict than others, to them 23 might still seem young (I'm 21, on my 2nd, my husband is now 24), but he needs to get his butt moving. He's going to disappoint them more by waiting. My husband was weary to tell our family this time around (our 2nd) because we found out SUPER early, and he was afraid of miscarriage, if he would've waited for other reasons I would've been hurt and felt like it was because he was embarrassed or not excited.. I would definitely talk to him about it.
I've sat down with him and talked to him countless times, he says he'll do it and never does. Like two days ago, I told him he has to tell his mom the details (she didn't know cuz he waited so long to tell her), and he told her we were keeping her... Nothing else. Not when I'm due, that she's a girl, etc. Sorry I'm rambling I'm frustrated lol. And thanks :)
Well i'd say at 23, he shouldn't be worried about disappointing his family.. he's an adult, and you and his child shouldn't be seen as a disappointment. Maybe me being harsh here but I wouldn't be happy.. my OH did tell his parents by about 15 weeks with my first pregnancy and told them the same this time (They had told us not to have more kids so we didnt' realy fancy telling them straight away ;)
He's waiting because he doesn't want to disappoint his family. He's 23, I would be more afraid of my mom than his family! They're so layed back.
What's his reason for waiting? My Other half took a while to tell his parents because he doesn't have a good relationship with them and was nervous. Sit down and talk to him about it.. ask why. Also Noelle... that's such a beautiful name.!
Why is he waiting? Does he have a bad relationship with his father? I know when my husband and I got pregnant with my son, we were pretty young, I was 17, he was 21, and we both had jobs, but he was still worried about disappointing our families (it was actually MY family he was worried about, but we told him right away) I would tell him you NEED to tell him asap, because the longer he waits it makes him look less confident and it will feel more like a betrayal to his father.
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