I had to learn the hard way that when you try to be and nice and not hurt other peoples feelings is just going to lead to them stepping all over you. And it will probably get worse when your baby is born. Trust me all that matters is what makes you and your boyfriend happy and comfortable! This is your time... Be honest with them and tell them to back off. Have your mom plan the shower and just hand them the invatations. I went through all of this when I was pregnant with my son. Good luck!
Oh no, sweetly I'm so sorry. I had to deal with my mil who didn't know boundaries at all! I tried being nice ny saying I needed some space and that hubby and I needed to make our own decisions. Just say, I'm super uncomfortable with this in the first place and I really just need everyone to relax.
Well thats sounds unfair to your baby, but maybe just have them get together and figure it out themselves about the babyshower, everything else if you dont want them there just tell them hun.
Have you spoken to them about your feelings on this?