Life Changes

[Haleybugular]

Is there any young moms on here that get depressed cause life was suppose to be so much more then this. Jobless , mom of two . At 19. I love my babies but im so sad right now . I had so many plans to be better then this, to go places. It might just be hormones but it *****. Am i alone?

[alexhelton95]

I'm 18 right now and 23 weeks pregnant and when I first got pregnant I thought my life was spiraling downhill. I had just quit my job cause I didn't need it and was planning on starting college. The I found out I was pregnant and ever since haven't had much hope. But I've been looking for a job ever since and finally got one and start next week. I'm still planning on attending college. I'm not going to let a baby make me feel like I have nothing cause not now do I not have nothing but I have even more because I am so proud of the life I'm bringing into the world. I don't even have my own place but you have to keep on going on and that's exactly what I'm doing.

[alliemom2]

I had my first at 16 I didn't het to finish high school because the principal thought I wasn't good reputation for there school and said to just go homeschool I tried to finish but I coulddnt do it by myself my mother thought I was a **** even though I was malested and told me to kick rocks till my toes bled now I'm 18 and found someone that wants me and my little girl and about ro have a little boy with him i know exactly how u feel I've been in that place where it seemed like I compleatly ruined my life and that it was hopeless to keep trying but u gotta just keep movin keep fighting and one day it'll all work out now I'm tryin to open my own business and gettin my ged nothin is ever hopeless keep ur head up

[LadyBeeley]

Actually my baby 180-ed my life. I was content being a housewife and not finishing college, working here and there... now my baby has me driven to finish my degree (I start back in jan), we have family vacations planned, I want to work and save as much as possible and provide EVERYTHING for my child, I clean and sanitize virtually daily now, rather than once a week... its pushed me for the best and I love every minute :)

[Haleybugular]

I had my daughter at 17, i lost all friends moved 16 hours away and then split with her father . So i was all alone, til i met my man im with now, father #2, he helps a lot with everything but i don't work and im dealing with other family issues its just so hard losing everything for your.child . But if I've learned one thing by having my daughter she is always there to hug you kiss you smile when you can't . She saved me in so many ways . I just wish everyone else would see that and not judge her for me having her young :'(

[bethshahan]

Definitely not alone. I don't have it as bad as most young moms do.. im 18 & engaged to my baby's father. We have our own house and he has a job. But its tough.. his job only pays $8 an hr and that's just enough to pay our bills. Then we'll have diapers, whipes, and other baby needs we'll need to take care of also. Im breastfeeding to save money. But I'm sure others out there have it worse then us, so I try to keep my head up. I do get depressed sometimes because I'm not in college like I hoped I would be at this time in my life, I do plan on going but with a newborn on the way any day its going to be 10 x's harder. And I can't go out with my friends like normal teenagers do. But I just try to tell myself that in the end, I'll have someone to show off to everyone. It'll be hard but I've heard its totally worth it.

[Haleybugular]

I try to stay positive, but its really hard somedays . But thanks ladies now I know im not alone. I just feel like i failed my family and myself sometimes. I already graduated high school a year early and I've also graduated college already at 19 . I guess im just in a runt and deep down i know ill get on my feet again because i don't give myself any other choice just in a dark place for the time being . Guess ill just be Debbie downer and listen to my music all day lol

[MrsLatney]

Yea u r not the only one n hormones dont make it any better i lost my job bf n happiness n the same week i just hope for the best n prepare for the worst so i wont b disappointed any more than i already am but im excited for her just not how hard its going to be for me n it makes me happi wen i get things accomplished thou like good things still can happen during your darkest moments...

[darthmander]

I feel like that on daily bases. I get so sad. I start worrying about my future and my babies future. And how it couldve been different. The thought that I'm questioning things makes me sad so I sit sad all day. But on other days I get so excited lol.

[TayyB2706]

You can't get depressed .. your still really young and still have plenty of time to redeem yourself.. just look at it as a rough patch in your life .. we all have those but just remember that rough patches are temporary not permanent so don't ever give up! (spoken from a young teen mom grown up and out of her rough patch)

[margueritebrayden]

I'm feeling the same way.. I had to stop working at week 38 because I was in so much pain..so now my hubby works

[Liz_zoey]

Not at all. I had really big plans for myself. I have onemore semester left until I get my degree, and with it I was going to travel the world. But now, I'll be a single mom, so its kind of out of the question now. My ex is going to take me to court, not because he cares about the baby, but because he wants to spite me. Thats just how he is. I love my baby, and wouldn't change a thing, but I do go over the 'what ifs' every once in awhile. Then I remember the little life I have inside me, and it helps ease my doubts. Keep your chin up hun, remember your kids, they're most important now. :)