feeling totally alone!

[kk92013]

Well I found out I am pregnant this month ..I am about 6 weeks and I believe I got pregnant around Xmas or a bit after? Sound right? In this case it would be my ex's baby. He is my ex but we have kept an ongoing relationship while he has been away (he's in jobcorp in another state) ..we have been really close and have always been there for eachother.. I've been supporting him through the entire jobcorp thing and other things he has been going through since I met him almost 4 yrs ago. Anyway long story short he doesn't want anything to do with this pregnancy. He even told me to stop contacting him and delete his #. He has told me things like this before and idk what to do. He wants me to get an abortion. But I really don't want to. Also my best friend thinks I'd be crazy to not have an abortion too. And I haven't told my family yet. I lost my job in December and I'm currently unemployed and my parents have temporary custody of my first born who will be 4 in April. It seems like all the world is against this baby and I know that but idk if I would be able to go thru with an abortion at least not without serious serious pain and regret. Idk what to do! Maybe there's someone who has been thru a similar situation. Any advice is welcomed. Thanks.

[Danni1415]

Oh and give him some time. This is probably a shock to him as well. Think I would go on and not text. Maybe Wait for him to text you??

[Danni1415]

I feel the same way. Like no one wants my baby.. Sometimes I even doubt myself.. I'm not exactly positive of dad between 2 guys and I have heard from them both in the last month that they want to sign over rights. Guy1 started out wanting to be in baby life a lot if his. And now wants to sign over rights. Guy2 was never to happy bout it and wanted me to abort. 3 weeks ago he too said he wanted to sigb over rights. He has now turned around since then and wants to take care of baby if his. I couldn't bring myself to do something(abort) that I didn't believe in and even had a moment of weakness where that was my desicion for a day. I have now decided I'm keeping my baby.  However I do feel everyone is against me since I am already a single mother and father to my almost 3 yr old. I am depressed(could be seasonal) and not thrilled bout my situation but I put myself here and everything happens for a reason. Can't wait to feel baby move(only 11 1/2 weeks) so hopefully I'm more happier.. Point is I KNOW that if I had aborted because he wanted me to that I would be a lot worse off and deep in depression

[babyboy111]

ya why do they have custudy of ur firstborn?

[DelainaN]

Don't get one cuz the dad wants you too... I did that and I regret it even more cuz I allowed him to have control like that.... If anything keep it and find a good adoptive family ... That's What I would do

[MamacitaTP]

In total agreeance with the first comment.

[baby2_on_the_way]

Why do your parents have placement over your first born? Will a court most likely grant them placement of this one too? In that case I thunk you should tell them and see what they have to say to be honest. I don't agree with abortions (I think they are cruel) but I think that if your parents will be the oneshaving to provide for this child they should maybe have a say in weather you should keep baby or consider adoption since the father doesn't want to help either. Not truong to be ride, and funny do anything you don't want to do, just giving my honest opinion here