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bf with baby fever!?
What to do about a boyfriend with baby fever he keeps telling me he wants to try again for a baby and i let him know im not ready and he literally gives the broken hearted puppy face after and i feel horrible!? How do i make him understand that its too soon to be thinking about another baby after just losing my lil man? (And my mothers no help shes incouraging him to bug me about a baby...) helppp!?
Idk hes been doing nothing but bring me my fav cookies and coffees and trying everything to cheer me up but i guess he could be thinking it would cheer me up.. guess i just got to talk to him about it
Do you think he thinks it will help you heal to try again? I think he is looking for ways to help you cope. Even though your not ready, which I can't say I would be either, I think you have a wonderful fella & he is just trying to help you. Men just think different than we do.
Your body does need at least two months to heal and go back to normal. The longer you wait after losing/having a baby the better your chance of having and conceiving your next one.
im so sorry hunny. take your time, heal, grieve, and then you try when you are ready. your mother and bf will understand!!
You are within your right to feel how you feel. I think it's inconsiderate of him to expect you to want a baby so soon. I know he obviously wants to be a dad but he needs to respect what you've been through more.
Tell him you need to recover and grieve. That you're not ready and will tell him when the right time is for you. It's your body and your emotional well being and its important you're not rushed.and pressured. So.sorry for your loss x
Glad you got to kiss your baby boy goodbye and hold him through his last moments. I wasn't as lucky. <3
She went into labor and he passed away. He just wasn't ready.
Honey, I wouldn't do anything yet either. This has been an emotional roller coaster for you. Its only been a week and I personally feel it'd be a little disrespectful to rush into another pregnancy so quickly. Let him know that your son deserves your full attention at the moment and your heart needs time to come to grips with what's happened. Let him know that if he loves you and really wants to try again, he'll wait until you're emotionally ready and that he IS a dad already. He held your hand through the pain and cried with you through the loss. He'll forever be a father, biological or not.
You've been on mine and my husbands mind for the past week, as we both followed the whole story. I know you're strong enough to make it through, but you're a mother with a broken heart. It takes time to mend. We waited 4 years after a missed mc at 16+2 and my husband wasn't even the father. (Had just gotten out of an abusive relationship).
Sorry for writing so much, but I know what you're feeling. I'm just gl
Honey, I wouldn't do anything yet either. This has been an emotional roller coaster for you. Its only been a week and I personally feel it'd be a little disrespectful to rush into another pregnancy so quickly. Let him know that your son deserves your full attention at the moment and your heart needs time to come to grips with what's happened. Let him know that if he loves you and really wants to try again, he'll wait until you're emotionally ready and that he IS a dad already. He held your hand through the pain and cried with you through the loss. He'll forever be a father, biological or not.
You've been on mine and my husbands mind for the past week, as we both followed the whole story. I know you're strong enough to make it through, but you're a mother with a broken heart. It takes time to mend. We waited 4 years after a missed mc at 16+2 and my husband wasn't even the father. (Had just gotten out of an abusive relationship).
Sorry for writing so much, but I know what you're feeling. I'm just gl
There is no reason not to try again.. just my own fear and grief and i am not sure how to get back to my old self... just hurt so bad losing my little one.
Feel blessed he wants one with you so bad, make a list of things you want/need to do before you try again make it stuff that lasts & that he'll have to help you work for.
Its only been a week since losing my lil man but he just wants to be a daddy so bad. He wasnt even my lil mans bilogical daddy but he was willing to take him on as his own and i just get so heart broken when he gives me the heart broken puppy face :(
Go at your pace never let anyone pressure you or you'll resent them for it. You need time to heal emotionally and physically and that isn't a quick process. Don't let them make you feel guilty because you have nothing to feel guilty for. You might find in a few months you're ready again but what's the rush? Its not like your clock is ticking! Take care and keep strong xx
Tell him that one baby does not replace another, and that you need a decent interval to grieve. It's only normal.
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