You could try a different position. I believe it is called something like Scissor Legs or something like that. You lay on your back while he is on his right side. Put your right leg between his legs and your left leg over his body. This gives good access from behind that is comfortable for both of you.
I'm sorry that this is going on. Perhaps he is already embarrassed and just feels hopeless, thus just letting himself go. Encourage him any way you can. Perhaps start going on evening walks together. Clean out your fridge/pantry and talk about putting restrictions on portions and fast food.
The bummer thing is that until he wants it, he won't do it. Hopefully something will spark inside of him and motivate him to want to change his lifestyle.
Joy has some great points... I would add that maybe now isnt a good time with stress... Maybe after the baby is born and he sees you working on loosing the weight he will want to join you!
I would sit and also have a talk with him, talk to him about the risks of being overweight ( try to say it as calmly and nicely as possible) that the risks are Diabetes and high blood pressure as well as cardiac problems and that with being a daddy not that he wouldnt want to get anything life threatning that will make it so he wont be able to take care and be the daddy that Im sure he wants to be.... (Hope that makes since I feel like I am rambling) Good Luck and I hope things work out...
OHHH also try to get him on a Mes one a day vitiman that will also help!
That's a great point, Linzola. My husband is more motivated when I'm working out really hard (which I obviously can't do right now). It's always easier when you have someone working WITH you, alongside you. It's difficult for you to do that right now. Is there someone (friend, family) that you could enlist to help him and join him at the gym?
Thanks guys for the advice. I know I need to let him do it when he is ready - and I know he will. I know the kind of stress he's under since I'm off of work on disability because of my heart with the pregnancy and to top things off he got laid off permanetly and is having to find a job soon because the baby will be here in like 94 days. It has been tough times, but I keep reminding him that eating his feelings away will not change a thing, our problems will continue to be there no matter what.
That position you descirbed Joy sounds exciting, but we will have to try any and all postions once I have the baby and he and I lose some weight. He would never be able to do that positon.
I'm sure most of you are probably asking yourselves well how did you get pregnant then, but he was smaller back in March where I could be on top and have lots of fun with controlling him from there and one night we decided to not use a condom cuz we were in the throws of it, and it happened.
I'm gonna keep my chin up and know it will have to get better right?