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Please do not judge me.
Please do not judge me. On Wednesday, August 19, 2009, I got back with my long time boyfriend and we had sex, The next day we broke up. On Friday and Saturday I went out with another guy. We had sex Saturday, August 22. Couple of weeks later when I did not menstruate, I went to the doctor for a pregnancy test. It was negative. Few weeks later it was positive. My due date was May 15, 2010. During the intervening days, the relationship with the second guy got serious. When I found out I was pregnant we moved in together. We are now engaged. I now have a 14 month old daughter. When she was born and as an infant she looked like my family. As she is getting older, to me she is starting to look like my ex boyfriend, especially around her mouth. She also has ears that stick out (identical to my ex’s ears). However, my fiancé’s mother’s ears stick out so no one from his family thinks anything is amiss, His parents, sister and brother dote on my daughter,. What I am trying to ascertain is how my fiancé might find out that Lily is not his daughter. Is there any way other than through blood work and DNA sampling?
I can't say all I would like to. I don't think words can describe how disgusted I am after reading this. I too feel very sorry for this man. From what it sounds like, he's a very good person and doesn't deserve this or you.
I don't even know what to say to comment on this. I am kind of speechless that you could be so inconsiderate to the man you are about to marry. I feel very sorry for him, neither him nor your daughter deserve this.
I totally agree with amn702- your living a lie and you're only digging yourself deeper and deeper into this mess.
I'm sorry for if what I am to say sounds rude but to me its the truth.
Your just using this man for his $$ and to me it seems like you do NOT love him what your saying is if you get married to him and then you do a DNA test and your daugther isn't his you can at least have half of what he owns. That spells GOLD DIGGER to me and remember sweetie karma is a B**** and what comes around goes around.
I have a lot more to say but I'd rather just leave it at that because I'm not about to get kicked off.
Goodluck with all this and hopefully u open your eyes and see how wrong you are.
GOD BLESS :)
I'm sorry for if what I am to say sounds rude but to me its the truth.
Your just using this man for his $$ and to me it seems like you do NOT love him what your saying is if you get married to him and then you do a DNA test and your daugther isn't his you can at least have half of what he owns. That spells GOLD DIGGER to me and remember sweetie karma is a B**** and what comes around goes around.
I have a lot more to say but I'd rather just leave it at that because I'm not about to get kicked off.
Goodluck with all this and hopefully u open your eyes and see how wrong you are.
GOD BLESS :)
I think I will not post any more on this conversation because I honestly can not believe how anyone could lay their head down and sleep at night living such a lie. You basically are using him for his money and assests, just like your mother's story. I guess the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Good luck with everything. I'm out.
Sorry, I just cannot get over your last post's final paragraph:
"Anyway, what I am trying to say is that you have to plan for your future. You may not agree but this is what is best for my daughter. My fiance can give her the kind of life she should have. What he doesn't know is not going to hurt him. When she gets old enough I will tell her that someone else might be her father. By that time my ex might have actually accomplished something and be making some money. Then will the time to do a DNA test."
That, and when you said, "He thinks I had to quit university when I got pregnant. That I gave up this wonderous future. He is a bit stunned I know (Did not have the heart to tell him I failed out!!)"
What a way of plan for your future--by riding the backs of people who work hard to accomplish everything themselves (when you failed and gave up on yourself) while you sat around taking advantage of their achievements, yet ready to up and leave at the drop of a hat if things don't go your way. Nice.
And if you do up and leave because things don't go your way, then by that time, the ex boyfriend of yours who just might be the father of your daughter "might have actually accomplished something and be making some money. Then will the time to do a DNA test."
Jump from leeching off one man, who you deceitefully had raise your daughter and support you, take him for all he's worth if things don't go your way, to attempting to leech off another man by dumping a whopper of truth on your innocent child that her father is never who she thought he was, and this ex of yours suddenly finds out he's a father after years of not knowing and *surprise!* Guess what, dude? You now have to pay for some kid you never knew you had, with whom you never formed any relationship or bond, because her mother could never grow up and do anything for heself or anyone else, including her own kid...she has to piggyback on everyone else to raise her daughter, and if you're the kid's sperm donor, you're next.
Brilliant plan. Very fair, honest, courageous, courteous and full of integrity and self-perseverence.
"Anyway, what I am trying to say is that you have to plan for your future. You may not agree but this is what is best for my daughter. My fiance can give her the kind of life she should have. What he doesn't know is not going to hurt him. When she gets old enough I will tell her that someone else might be her father. By that time my ex might have actually accomplished something and be making some money. Then will the time to do a DNA test."
That, and when you said, "He thinks I had to quit university when I got pregnant. That I gave up this wonderous future. He is a bit stunned I know (Did not have the heart to tell him I failed out!!)"
What a way of plan for your future--by riding the backs of people who work hard to accomplish everything themselves (when you failed and gave up on yourself) while you sat around taking advantage of their achievements, yet ready to up and leave at the drop of a hat if things don't go your way. Nice.
And if you do up and leave because things don't go your way, then by that time, the ex boyfriend of yours who just might be the father of your daughter "might have actually accomplished something and be making some money. Then will the time to do a DNA test."
Jump from leeching off one man, who you deceitefully had raise your daughter and support you, take him for all he's worth if things don't go your way, to attempting to leech off another man by dumping a whopper of truth on your innocent child that her father is never who she thought he was, and this ex of yours suddenly finds out he's a father after years of not knowing and *surprise!* Guess what, dude? You now have to pay for some kid you never knew you had, with whom you never formed any relationship or bond, because her mother could never grow up and do anything for heself or anyone else, including her own kid...she has to piggyback on everyone else to raise her daughter, and if you're the kid's sperm donor, you're next.
Brilliant plan. Very fair, honest, courageous, courteous and full of integrity and self-perseverence.
OK I cant not judge after reading your last post. Your mothers life is a beautiful story!!!!! She took a man for a 20 year ride, then took him for half his money and assets and ran off with his best friend. And you think following in her footsteps is a good option....sounds to me like its an easy option. You should be the example to your children your mother was never to you and tell the truth not take an easy ride and if needs be stand on your own 2 feet. You dont deserve your fiancée if you dont tell him the truth.
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