Please do not judge me.

[Finnz]

Please do not judge me. On Wednesday, August 19, 2009, I got back with my long time boyfriend and we had sex, The next day we broke up. On Friday and Saturday I went out with another guy. We had sex Saturday, August 22. Couple of weeks later when I did not menstruate, I went to the doctor for a pregnancy test. It was negative. Few weeks later it was positive. My due date was May 15, 2010. During the intervening days, the relationship with the second guy got serious. When I found out I was pregnant we moved in together. We are now engaged. I now have a 14 month old daughter. When she was born and as an infant she looked like my family. As she is getting older, to me she is starting to look like my ex boyfriend, especially around her mouth. She also has ears that stick out (identical to my ex’s ears). However, my fiancé’s mother’s ears stick out so no one from his family thinks anything is amiss, His parents, sister and brother dote on my daughter,. What I am trying to ascertain is how my fiancé might find out that Lily is not his daughter. Is there any way other than through blood work and DNA sampling?

[HeatherLynB]

If you are unsure then i think you should get a DNA test. If you dont want him to know about it then get some hair or like ninky724 said, get saliva and take that and your daughter to get tested. If it comes back that she is his, then dont say anything lol! I know its being sneaky, but if you tell him she might not be his and the test comes back that he IS hers there may be some tension in the relationship with trust. If it were me and i were unsure id test without him knowing and then if shes not his i would say something. Good Luck!

[lisa1905]

i know , it is bad to saying it but u can do this, at walgreens they have  a DNA test kit , just get one and do the test , if came that he is not the father then tell him, if he is a father then dont say anything, let the past just stay in past :)

[NicMom]

I would do the dna test and then that way you know for sure. I can't give advice about if you should tell him or not, but you might be able to put your mind at ease and know that he is the dad 100%.

[NicMom]

Oh I have to say my daughter had to go to the emergency room a few times and they did ask about her blood type so if there is a possibility that he's not the dad you might want to know that before being in a situation like that.

[Clysta]

Just looking similar to someone doesn't tell anything. I look NOTHING like my biological father. YOU made the mess up, your doctor and partner should not have to pay that price. They deserve to know the truth.

[sweetpea03]

You need to do a DNA test and I would recommend that you do it soon. You need to know who the actual father is so that you can know that side of the family's medical history, her blood type, and so on. It's important that you know this information. I don't look like my biological parents, so you can't go off of looks, as it is just unreliable. Get the DNA test done soon, for the well-being of your daughter and so that you and your fiance can know the truth. It would be very cruel to marry your fiance and then tell him later that he might not be the dad. Find out that information now and then go from there. Hope it all goes well.