Signing over rights

Question

So I'm seven wks nd my baby father which is now my ex boyfriend doesnt want me having my baby.. So he told me if I don't get abortion hes going to sign over his rights... Can he do that? And without my signature? Will I stay be able to get child support? Its really sad things came to this and we been together for a year and living with each other... (in my house)

mushie14 · Answer

Found out where I live he sign over his rights but still has to pay child support once the dna test prove he is the father

MsKitty84 · Answer

MamaBear's right; I do think the process is somewhat different from state to state but we process a lot of new hire paperwork and deal with plenty of deadbeat dads. If it were that easy to sign away your rights in most states, tons of them would've done it by now. We have heard pretty much every excuse or story about some "arrangement with the mother" in the book. My favorites are the ones who say they have it all set up to pay the moms privately so they don't need their checks garnished, or the ones who put everything in their mom's or girlfriend's name so they don't have any "assets." Most of them don't stick around for work long because there's a 20-day limit on getting the paperwork in; lotta times if you hire them, you end up with a guy who'll work for a few days, collect a check and split. (and then you get the really stupid ones who name you on unemployment paperwork a few months later).

mushie14 · Answer

Ok thanks every one I live in ct I will do my research on it

MamaBear0612 · Answer

If that were true, deadbeat dads everywhere would just sign over their rights to keep from paying. Without you agreeing that in return for him signing over his rights you absolve him from all financial responsibility, the state makes him pay. You might talk to a lawyer to see what to do to protect your rights in this situation.

proudmommyandwife · Answer

He can try but a judge has to grant it and he'd have to have valid reasoning not just that he doesn't want a child, so it'd be hard and expensive for him to even attempt

mushie14 · Answer

Nd he has a 5 yr old already... But ima take your advice... I don't wanna get back with him... Just want him in his child life... That might not happen.... I will be ok tho... Thanks alot!!!! I really appreciate it

waitn838 · Answer

honestly it depends on what state you live in and their laws...there are states (NC for example) that the father can do that!!!

then there are states such as PA that will not allow that unless there is another man to assume the rights/responsiblities for the child

i know this because my oldest sons biological father pulled the same stunt when i was 4 months preg and when i was living in PA he was still forced to pa child support...he did end up giving me all custody rights but still has parental rights to my son

MamaBear0612 · Answer

Yeah the initial reaction isn't always a great one when it's unexpected. Maybe he'll come around, but no matter what as the biological father, he has responsibilities to that child. Definitely don't sign anything though, just to protect yourself and your baby; your state probably has a webpage that explains to you how the child support process works.

Mommii2B_ · Answer

He CAN sign over his rights, the child support obligation afterwards differs from state to state so look up the laws but he could be off the hook for that too...some men are assholes sorry, but Congrats!

coffeebuzzedliz · Answer

You were not wrong in telling his mom, since she is going to be a grandma and should know. Give your EX some time, not saying to get back together, but rather some time for him to get use to the fact of being a dad, a lot of guys get really scared and it takes them time to get excited and realize how awesome it is. But if he doesn't turn around there is nothing you can do to force him to step up. Get the paternity test, figure out the child support thing and just go on living your life with your cute little baby :)

mushie14 · Answer

I planned on getting one anyway jus to prove it... Thats wouldn't be a problem... Not worried about that..

coffeebuzzedliz · Answer

As far as a know a dad can sign away his rights, as far as saying you the mom get 100% custody but he can not sign away the responsibility he has of being the father. He would still need to provide child support and so forth unless you said he didn't need to. I believe you will need a paternity test to prove he is the father.

mushie14 · Answer

Thanks.... I'm not stressing I have my child to wiry about... I have alot of support from my family and every one is excited.. Including me... I told his mom about the pregnancy she was happy but diappointed he didn't mention it to her.... Guess hes really not trying to accept our child... Was I wrong for letting his mom know?