Some advice...

[Springs615]

So me and my bf live together.. Been together for 1yr and I'm obviously pregnant. I tend to get emotional and we start arguing because he doesn't come with me to the appts.  I want him to be there to share the excitement that I feel when I see the baby..  And I know he's busy working and he apologizes but I start crying cause I just feel like he doesn't care..  Am I over exaggerating??

[beckymarieliddle]

I honestly do not see it as overreacting and think its terrible that any other woman would say that to another woman. As long as you understand he has to work even though it upsets you he has to miss, youre not overreacting.  It'd be different if you didnt understand why he misses the appointments. Keep your chin up lady! :)

[Melissa_25]

My husband doesnt come to my appointments but I scheduled the ultrasound for a time that he would be able to go it before work because thats the appointment we both cared the most about.

[Allipiesmommy]

Honestly your over reacting. My SO works 40+ hours a week,swing shifts so he has missed appointments but at least he's not out with his friends partying during that time. He's making money for your guys child. We have a 2 year old too, if I cried every time he missed something important, I'd be crying a lot. Weather you 2 r together or apart he's not always going to be there for everything your child(ren) do. Just be great full he's with you and cares enough to help support the baby cause not very many girls have that these days.

[lizzysmama_08]

Im in the exact same situation my bf is a manager in retail this is our 2nd child together. With our first he was at most appts this one he hasnt been to one because he works so much ..he apologies but i still get upset. I let him know why it bothers me. He understands im extra emotional. He promised not to miss the ultrasound. I just try to stay positive and remember he works hard to take care of us and i know he wants to be there. Im sure your bf really wishes to be there. Just remember hes working hard for his family . I hope it gets better for you !! congrats and good luck

[Tavi12]

If he works then in my opinion you are overreacting my husband works so he cannot go to the appointments with me but I know he would if he wasn't working to provide for our family but he is going to take work off for my next appointment

[beautygrl]

No your not exaggerating, and it's completely understandable that you would want him to be present.  One thing my doctors had to advise me of when I had my first child, men go through emotional changes as well during our pregnancies.  While women are concerned with our baby's health, preparedness, etc.; men often worry about being good fathers and sufficient providers for the woman and child.  Maybe he's worried about working because he feels that he needs to be financially prepared to care for both you and the child.

Try  a compromise: maybe he can come to every other doctor appointment, so he doesn't miss too much work or the baby's development.  But be warned, when you are close to delivery, appointments are every week.  So if he's working to save money, he will need to miss more than what you'll want him to.

But alas, your baby will all be worth it and you will forget about any gripes once you look into his/her eyes.

[babymama1515]

Yes