Aa
feeling down :(
8 months pregnant, & well i found out that my bf slept with a girl awhile back...... i went thru some messages and there was a picture of a baby girl. he was having a convo with his friend and he was saying that the baby might be his and that he wants to get a dna test..... anyways when i seen this my heeart dropped.. i told my bf and he confessed to me that one night he was drunk and slept with a girl & that supposedly the girl took advantage of him & he was drunk and he didn't know what was he thinking. he told me theres a possibility that it can be his daughter..... :( he was crying to me telling me how sorry he was and that he loves me a lot and that he's very sorry and for me to forgive him.... man im just so hurt, shocked... i haven't been feeling good after i seen this, been having pains ;/
A girl can't possibly take advantage of a guy while he's drunk, he obviously had to get a boner some how. BUT I still feel like he should have brought it up. Together, talking, anything of that nature. I wouldn't be able to even look at my bf knowing he kept that from me.
Of course it's ultimately up to you to decide if you'd want to stay with him, but you'll be having his baby very soon and something like that is just gonna stay in the back of your mind and at this point in your life you have bigger priorities to worry about. I wish he would have told you sooner then you'd feel more at ease I suppose.
But whatever you decide just make sure it's what you and your baby deserve, I know break ups can be hard especially with a baby involved but remember it's just a comfort thing that's hard to get over.
I'm so sorry and I hope all goes well with your sticky situation.
Of course it's ultimately up to you to decide if you'd want to stay with him, but you'll be having his baby very soon and something like that is just gonna stay in the back of your mind and at this point in your life you have bigger priorities to worry about. I wish he would have told you sooner then you'd feel more at ease I suppose.
But whatever you decide just make sure it's what you and your baby deserve, I know break ups can be hard especially with a baby involved but remember it's just a comfort thing that's hard to get over.
I'm so sorry and I hope all goes well with your sticky situation.
Well even then.. It's really up to you to forgive him. And if you do forgive him it will take time and even then you may not really fully accept it. The best advice I can give to you is just find out through dna if the child is his. If it is there's nothing that can be done but for him to take responsibility and pay up for his actions (child support if the woman wants it) and if you've and forgive him to try to find away to avcept/move on from it and live your life in peace.
Oh man.. I'm so sorry :( that's extra bs that you have to have on your shoulders while pregnant. If this happened before you were with him there's only so much you can do. It would take time to accept it, my sister who has two kids from the same father had a one night stand while with another girl and got the woman pregnant with a little girl and when my sister found out she was heart broken for years and still didn't grasp onto it.
Even though you are hurting by it, please try to not let it get the best of you while pregnant. It's not healthy at all to Stress out about it. If anything, try to get away for a bit to clear your mind!
Even though you are hurting by it, please try to not let it get the best of you while pregnant. It's not healthy at all to Stress out about it. If anything, try to get away for a bit to clear your mind!
Don't listen to her that's NOT the same thing. If he had a one night stand before he even knew you that is no one's fault and that girl patricia her bf cheated on her NOT the same thing. Some foolishness over here.
Honestly I would be so hurt right now I wouldn't be around him, u need time to yourself I caught my bf just text messaging girls a few years back and I still bring it up when we argue and now that I'm pregnant makes me think maybe I should of left him when I found out he was talking to girls behind my back bc even tho it was so long ago im not over it I always feel like he's doin it now so I would advise u if you're truly goin to forgive him it means u won't bring it up in the future if not you're just going to make yourself miserable, I went through the same thing wit my ex and the best thing i did was leave him it been 5 years and still begs for another chance but nope i can't live my life wit a person like that knowing what they did to me not caring enough about my feelings
I was in the same exact situation as you while I was pregnant last year. It turned out to not be his and he's not allowed to talk to that woman ever again and deleted Facebook. It will be okay I know exactly how you feel when I read my husband's texts to her I wanted to puke
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