TMI lol

[tiara06]

Sooooooooo lately me and my ex have been conversing After not for almost 8 months. But Me And the father of my child are still together.  Everything is great between us we argue and all but no one is perfect.  But ive been craving my ex sex bc his oral is sooooo good lord jesus. He's bless. Dont get me wrong my bf is great also but my ex.  Jesus take the wheel.  I don't wanna step out on my bf. But its been on my mind heavy

[Clouds_]

Don't do it! Lol I'm sure it's just your horomones. I mean just remember there's always a reason that he's an ex. Don't tease yourself with those thoughts either. I'm sure it's just the whole you want what you can't have that's making it seem sweeter.

[smileymonn89]

Obviously you cant care to much for your current partner if your chatting to your ex and thinking of him in that manner.

Id suggest you pull your thoughts in line and decide what you want!!

[tiara06]

Trust me I care for my bf. Its just these craving and hormones

[mommyofalibra]

I haven't talked to any exes since being pregnant but i have thought about sex with one a time or two. I feel guilty about it too lol. Of course I'm not gonna do it either. Just hormones maybe??

[tiara06]

I haven't said anything to him about having sex. I just think about it. I don't think thats wrong. Nothing wrong with reminiscing at times

[MrsAmySanchez]

If you want your ex then leave your current bf..or let your bf have sex with a girl thats better then you and call it even..to me its not right your even talking to your ex especially when your having these feelings for him, your already cheating in your heart but obviously thats your choice

[mommyofalibra]

True lol.

[tiara06]

Oh.... well me personally I feel its not. Yes I talk to him make sure everything is ok he's been thru alot lately. N yes I reached out to him after hearing some news. N since we've just been checking on each other. Nothing flirtation. Its just all in my mind.

[alexx1216]

These ladies are making it seem like you're cheating so you should let your bf go have sex with another girl? I don't get it, she's just having thoughts & she's sharing it with us insted of holding it in. I'm sure she's not going to & if she ends up making that mistake than **** that's her problem & she done got herself in a hole. But I'm sure we've all had thoughts we shouldn't be speaking about out loud, EVERYONE does, it's human nature. But honey yes just keep it on the friend side, make sure the conversation is simple & doesn't go any further & not something you would hide or delete so your significant other wouldn't get upset, just like if he were chatting with his ex about anything & you saw it, you would simply want it to be about how eachothers life is going & that's all, basically put yourself in his shoes. That's my opinion, but yes keep your thoughts in your mind or on here, do not speak out loud! Lol goodluck momma .

[MrsAmySanchez]

Well if your like most normal women then you wouldn't be too happy if your current bf was talking to his ex and reminiscing about how good she was in bed, then its not right for you to do the same..I know I wouldn't want my husband ever doing that so im not going to do that to him, js but anyway hope your pregnancy goes well have a good one

[tiara06]

^^^^^^^^^ Thank you someone understands. TheybMade me feel bad for even posting it  I just wanted to get it off n out somewhere. At least I didn't say it to him

[tiara06]

Sooo now im not normal? ??? Really? I can think of whatever i want. Hell all normal men think of someone else at some point of time.  Do u think if beyonce walked pass ur husband he's not going to look. If he doesnt ill be concern. Hell im going to turn around with mines and watch....Men r going to be men

[MrsAmySanchez]

It is cheating in your heart, maybe no one else heres reads or cares what the bible says but I do and even if I didn't I wouldn't agree that it ok..thinking about it is the first step to doing it, thats just common sense there..and you posted this in a public forum so I gave my opinion if you don't agree then continue doing what you are..if it's not wrong then you should have no problem telling your bf your thoughts and he should be ok with it..

[alexx1216]

Yeah I mean it's normal, but now like I said put yourself in his shoes, if you saw your man writing his ex to see how she's doing because she was struggling or something going on you can't go crazy on him now. It's vise versa you know. You may be reminiscing on some things but dang atleast you sharing it here & not with him or telling your man, it's not illegal or a sin, like I said it's human nature to have thoughts & unless you're some kind of special you can't stop things from running thru your mind. Also if your man sees or asks anything make sure you tell him straight up about your convos, if not he may think your hiding something you know? But yeah I understand, not that im in that same position, but **** happens, no one is perfect.

[smileymonn89]

No not all normal men think about someone else at some point.

Clearly you have no idea about a commited relationship at all.

Its two people not two and occasionally an ex....  and stop blaming this on hormones im sick of women blaming hormones for selfish and down right wrong behaviour. And no its not ok to think about your ex and how good he was if you really loved your partner you would not even talk to your ex.

Lust of the heart is just as bad as actually doing it all the same in Gods book !!

[MrsAmySanchez]

Having those thoughts are normal but your supposed to put it out of your head and do what you can to not sit there and lust over it, or be talking to him cuz you don't know what it could lead to..just like id expect my husband to not disrespect me by staring and lusting at beyonce and turn the other way..thats the right thing to try and do..

[tiara06]

Im glad you gave your opinion. We're all women here. Im just reaching out to women having girl talk. But like I said it's all in my mind we haven't physically or emotionally connected. Soo no harm has been done.  But thanks tho

[MrsAmySanchez]

And yea it is a sin if your going by what the bible says

[alexx1216]

Remember not everyone reads the bible, so I don't think you should try to talk about what the bible sais, I think we're talking about human nature here. Everyone has their own opinion though, some people/couples are more open minded. I'd also stare Beyoncé down if she walked by & wouldn't have a problem with my man looking too lol its human nature, doesn't mean he's going to try & cheat on me with her, just looking.

[tiara06]

I don't know any human being in this world that would NOT reach out to a ex friend or ex husband boyfriend or whomever that has been thru a very difficult time and to know about it and not even pick a phone to say "hey ive heard what happened so and so. Just wondering if your ok" etc......  I don't see any wrong doings there.  Yes ive thought of my past with him hell who hasnt.... and let's not talk about sins bc last time I check this forum is fir 18-24 all of us cant possibly be married . So ur first sin is having child out of wedlock so don't bring the bible and all into this

[MrsAmySanchez]

I can talk about the bible just like she can talk about how good oral sex was with her ex, thats doesn't bother you but the bible does lol

[smileymonn89]

But the harm is done because your wanting your ex.

Why dont you just help your current partner out teach him what you like and connect with him. I stead of thinking of your ex ?

[MrsAmySanchez]

And if your trying to get at weather or not im married, I am married not dating but I also sin just like everyone else in this world, if I wasn't a sinner I wouldn't need Jesus but the point is to strive to be better and more like Jesus by doing your best to turn away from your sins..youll mess up cuz no ones perfect but sinning and pretending its ok instead of admitting its wrong is what bothers me

[tiara06]

I think the bible is on a whole another level bc maybe some of us arent into tge same belief especially bc thats a very sensitive topic. So no I personally don't think you should be comparing it to what im posting. But hey that's my opinion.  Just like you've posted yours. Like ive stated before I don't see anything wrong with A THOUGHT