Too scared to Keep it

[Mandaa09]

So im about 6 weeks pregnant, i was pregnant before this one but i misscarried after 13 weeks and I felt like the biggest faliure, now with the baby im pregnqnt with now, i just dont feel the excitement or eagerness for it and now im pondering whether I want to keep it or not, am I just scared?

[hansen20]

with my  ex he told me to do the same, i left but then 3-4 weeks later he came around and said okay im here for you and the baby but 1 week after that i miscarried and we both cried on the phone, i moved back home that was 6hours away from where he lived but i never took him back, we had so many problems. i am now engaged to my recent BF and we are happy=), i have 2 other kids so this is my 4th pregnancy but 3rd baby and he treats them as his own=). yes you sure will be a GREAT MOMMY!! he might come around and he might not, but with all the women on here that i saw posts of their mans did come around and only 1 didnt. your a strong lady you can do this with him or with out him.=) try to be strong and posititve, i know its hard but what ever the out come is i hope you have a Happy and Healthy Pregnancy=) through out the 9 months=).

[Cat_lovesherbabies]

Hey girl, maybe this will help you.... my ex husband and I decided together that we wanted a baby. When I got my positive test, we were so happy! I ended up losing my baby. It was the hardest thing I had ever done. I felt like I failed as a mother and I hated myself. I got pregnant again just a few months later and I was terrified! To make matters worse, my husband decided he didn't want a baby after all and left me. When he left....so did my house, my things, my friends, my car.....everything. I was SO SURE the baby wouldn't make it. And the road hasn't been easy. But she did, she's two years old now and the light of my life. I've found a good man who loves me and my daughter and we can't wait to welcome our second daughter in September!  If your bring decides he doesn't want to be a part of this magical experience with you ...I PROMISE its his loss. Not yours! Be strong, you'll be a great mommy <3

[rachyrou]

My partner wanted.me to have an abortion for five weeks and wouldn't speak to ne because I told him I was keeping the baby.. now he's the greatest father ever and loves her to pieces. You can't make him want it but some men just need Time..good luck. If you ever need someone to talk to pop me a msg x

[Mandaa09]

So I just managed to recently convince myself that I want the baby im pregnant with, and now all of a sudden my Boyfriend doesnt want it, is there anything I can do to convince him to stay with me and the baby, I have made it clear that I would choose the baby over him but I dont want it to come to that

[rachyrou]

I'm so sorry for your loss but you're probably iust scared. I had an early miscarriage and then fell pregnant again and was terrified. I now have an amazing 11month old who is the love of my life. And pregnant with my second baby  And have no regrets. I wish you all the best in whatever decision you make

[Mandaa09]

Thank you everyone you have all made things not so clouded, i will talk to my boyfriend and let u all know in the next couple if days what my decision is xxx

[CantWaitToLoveYou]

i'm 21 & didnt imagine having kids for a longgg time. so when i found out i was pregnant i was anything but happy. i felt soo bad considering abortion but i couldnt imagine actually being a parent. i had almost made up my mind to get the abortion, but after my bf begged me not to, i couldnt go through with it, even tho i still wasnt excited to be a parent. well now i'm almost 27 weeks & i am sooo grateful i didnt get the abortion. i am soo anxious to become a mother, my entire life has changed & i know this was meant to be. things like partying & friends dont seem the least bit important anymore. the love i feel for this baby is overwhelming & nothing else matters anymore but him. the moment i saw him on the ultrasound at around 14w i knew i had made the right decision. just give it time to sink in :)

[stha2012]

I had a miscarriage April 1,2011...I was 12 weeks along. I was so heartbroken and said I never wanted to b pregnant again. I went on the pill after my body went back to normal a few months later. In December I found out I was expecting. I was so upset bc I had the thought process that the baby would just die anyways. It took me until my ultrasound at 21 weeks before I finally got excited. And now I am patiently waiting the arrival of my baby boy! I felt like an awful mom for feeling the way I did in the beginning but believe me its just fear and you trying to protect yourself from heartache and that's normal.  Good luck to you!

[stacey10]

I'm sorry for your loss, and what your experiencing is perfectly normal, its like a type of self preservation, your protecting yourself from being hurt again, just in case something goes wrong with this pregnancy, although there are no gurantees with this new pregnancy, its more likely that you will not have any problems and the pregnancy will progress normally, just give yourself some time, I dont think having an abortion would make you feel any better, then you would have to deal with the emotional side of aborting a pregnancy that would most probably have been problem free

[LindyNjose24]

dont make any choices right away u have plenty of time to decide what u want to do,
but dont make that choice only cuz u r scared, i understand that its got to be hard with what u have been thru but i look at it this way the baby u did lose had something wrong with him/her and it was better off aborting itself then living with whatever was wrong with him/her, i know its hard to look at it that way
but if u r so hurt from losing the other child, aborting this child will make u feel even worse(in my opinion)

i think ur just scared it will happen again but u should give this baby a chance n see how it all goes, i dont think aborting this baby will make anything change it could only make u feel worse about doing all that

[Adjanaesmom]

You could just be scared and maybe your excitement will kick in after you pass your 13 weeks. :) BTW congrats and good luck!!! :-)