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am i just being a *****?
So I'm almost 13 weeks and my bf who's the father of this baby is never around. He is always off drinking with his friends missing our appointments because he blacks out and sleepsall day. He never texts me back. II'm thinking of moving back to wv and am living in via right now. Am I just being selfish wanting to move back? Or am I right to want to leave to better things for me. PS he doesn't wanna move out of his grandparents house and into an apartment with me and the baby. please I need advice with this.
Idk how the job hunting is going I'm always at school or at work or helping my grandmother trying to make money while he's at home. He's blacked out from alcohol twice this week and he's sweet and everything I don't wanna break his heart but I can't take trying to save a relationship for the sake of the baby I tried that with my first and it ****** me over big time
How's the job hunting going?
Nothing makes you grow up faster than being a parent. Can't really get wasted when you have a baby to care for. So, Id' consider if you'll mind his getting drunk and not working when you have the baby. :>(
You sound responsible and smart. I just hate for a young woman to be the grown up and allow her partner to not be one. Being 21 is not an excuse to get wasted in my opinion. It's a matter of maturity. I wouldn't be big on a partner staying out drunk and to the point of passing out or blacking out ever. Baby or not. Like, that's just a lack of control and judgment in my opinion. and once you have a kid, that shouldn't be a regular thing if at all. But that is just my opinion. I would do what is best for you.
You can always see if it gets better for sure and maybe it will. I'd make it clear that he needs to find a job pronto. And then when you have the baby, 21 or not, I'd not be cool with a partner getting hammered all the time. That's going to make you feel very alone since at least ONE parent has to stay sober to care for the baby. peace!! Hugs!! I know it is hard in these situations for sure-- been there.
Nothing makes you grow up faster than being a parent. Can't really get wasted when you have a baby to care for. So, Id' consider if you'll mind his getting drunk and not working when you have the baby. :>(
You sound responsible and smart. I just hate for a young woman to be the grown up and allow her partner to not be one. Being 21 is not an excuse to get wasted in my opinion. It's a matter of maturity. I wouldn't be big on a partner staying out drunk and to the point of passing out or blacking out ever. Baby or not. Like, that's just a lack of control and judgment in my opinion. and once you have a kid, that shouldn't be a regular thing if at all. But that is just my opinion. I would do what is best for you.
You can always see if it gets better for sure and maybe it will. I'd make it clear that he needs to find a job pronto. And then when you have the baby, 21 or not, I'd not be cool with a partner getting hammered all the time. That's going to make you feel very alone since at least ONE parent has to stay sober to care for the baby. peace!! Hugs!! I know it is hard in these situations for sure-- been there.
Remember it takes a boy to make a baby, a man to raise one, if he can't be a man, let the boy be a boy and go, or he could be just stressed out.. .go with what your heart tells you. I don't want you nor your baby in danger if his alcoholism means venting on you, keep that in mind as well. Pray about it.
I mean he just turned 21 and I don't mind Hun drinking but he promised to be at these appointments since he got fired. I work 6am-1pm usually and then go to these appointments I just don't want to do something stupid. He's sweet at times but others he acts like he does even care. I mean he hasn't kissed me hugged me or just simply hung out with me for almost a week and I'm 18
Girl do what you think is best for you and your baby, may sound sexist but men can be the dumbest things on the planet sometimes, especially when it's time to grow up and not be so selfish. If you think moving would be the better option, then go for it. Some people don't have the courage to leave and stay in horrible situations. Hope things turn out, best of luck and congrats on your baby :)
Hi there. Well, no. I don't think you are overreacting. I mean, my husband didn't go to a lot of my doctor's appointments but he was WORKING.
Being blacked out and passed out after a bender the night before is hardly father of the year material.
One has to wonder how he'd be after the baby arrives. He doesn't seem like he is at the time in life in which he's interested in what comes with parenthood (nights at home together caring for the baby quietly). Do you think he has a drinking problem?
I just worry that once the baby arrives this could get worse and it's not going to be supportive for you. If you have more support in WV, then I would go. Then if this guy wants to be a daddy . . . he'll make the effort. I would absolutely make sure he pays child support and offer him the opportunity to know his kid as kids want to know both parents. but I worry you'll be on your own without support where you are at.
good luck hon
Being blacked out and passed out after a bender the night before is hardly father of the year material.
One has to wonder how he'd be after the baby arrives. He doesn't seem like he is at the time in life in which he's interested in what comes with parenthood (nights at home together caring for the baby quietly). Do you think he has a drinking problem?
I just worry that once the baby arrives this could get worse and it's not going to be supportive for you. If you have more support in WV, then I would go. Then if this guy wants to be a daddy . . . he'll make the effort. I would absolutely make sure he pays child support and offer him the opportunity to know his kid as kids want to know both parents. but I worry you'll be on your own without support where you are at.
good luck hon
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