am i really the problem??

[Jazzylovesgato]

Wen I meet my bf as the father of my son n unborn baby he had money never worried about a thing. Now we both seem to just be getting by. He loves cars n he buys n fixes them up to sell for a profit. I enojy tht he has cars as a passion n nt something else. Bt the other dayy he tells me babe I'm messing up I said wht do u mean he says I'm nt suppose to be working my dream was to never work for someone other then be my own boss. I said then go follow ur dreams do it. N he says but ur holding me back. I got soo sad. He said becuz I nag him where u going with who wen will u be back. I think as his gf taking a role as a wife shud knw those things. I feel like he wants the married life kids & me bt nt wht comes with it. Like the arguments disagreements & all tht. I let him do guy things him kick it with his guy friends I give him freedom all I ask of him is to let me knw of his plans n for him to just do them without me knwing who he's with or where he's at. Am I being fair?

[laurenda0728]

I went thru the same thing with the father.of my children and I finally set him down and  told him that it isn't me nagging and that it's.me being worried about you and he now tells me if he has plans after work and pretty much everything that he does with out me. So just try to tell him it's because your worried and not nagging

[jimenez_4]

If he's not following his dreams thats on him. He has a girl who loves and supports him and two kids, what more could he want? When you're in a commited relationship, its natural to want to know where he is...i honestly dont see the problem with asking. Its not like you're telling him he.cam't go...i would say talk to him, tell him you support him no matter what and want him to be happy, but he cant blame his position on you, because youve done nothing wrong.

[Jazzylovesgato]

Yeah girl thanks I try n talk to him bt I never get thru to him. I feel bad if im the reason hes nt accomplishing his dreams

[krrw21]

That not wrong. If all you want is a where are you headed and when will you be back hr should be fine with that. We worry about the people we love and your pregnant so its important to feel safe. Just let him know you want him to go for his dreams and support each other. I hope that helps.