boyfriend vent!

[angelelaine]

A little upset at my bf. I was joking & told him how happy Ill be when I can finally go out because he's been going out my whole Pregnancy,  & he said he's still gonna be going out when the baby gets here. I told him I'm gonna need his help with a new born but he disagreed. I told him he shouldn't of had a baby if he was gonna be focused of going out all summer. Am I wrong for saying that? I think iT's pretty logical.  It's not fair that us women give up so much for our children ( not saying I wouldn't) but the men sort of pick how much they give away. I love my daughter & she's gonna get every bit of me but it's just frustrating.

[Marieemichelle]

I know how you feel , there's days my husband would leave me to go out with his friends . & I'm only 5 months preggo. This has been going on since I was about 3 months. His dad would tell him not to do that , & that he needs to be with me during my pregnancy. But he just doesn't understand that.
I never go out or else it bother him if I did.
Talk about unfair .

[joannagonzalez]

Yeah well communicate with your baby daddy and let it be heard and understood how you feel. :) its not easy being prego with not much support. Having a baby is a blessing but your baby daddy gotta start acting right its no joke

[angelelaine]

Your right!  We agreed to have this baby & I wouldn't take her back for the world but he just makes it hard,  financially I think he will do the right thing but as far as the support he definitely needs to be talked to about.His mom feels the same way,  I'm just scared I'm gonna end up doing it alone

[Yoshii_93]

I wish I could get my husband out the house I b wanting to get out the house and have fun n he always want to stay in omg. we not clubbing people even though we are young I'm glad about that but what's wrong with going to see a movie or out to eat or something. But no your bf has to realize the responsibility everything isn't just for mama to do it do not work like that and don't let him think that either nip that in the bud real quick.don't let him even think he going no where while u stuck at home n he out having fun if he wanted to do that he shouldn't have had a child

[angelelaine]

Thanks for the advice,  yeah I think we need to have a talk.  He's equally responsible for our daughter , & it really hurts my feelings when he says stuff like that to me. Yes I'm her mother but he's her father & she needs him too.  

[1st_time_mommyscarbro]

Don't expect he will change once your baby is here. If he gets away with it now he will keep trying in the future also! You need to set rules and bounderies. You didnt make baby alone so its not just you who needs to sacrifice everything!! I set rules and bounderies way before we got engaged and married and its so much more enjoyable having my husband going to every ob-gyn appt with me and he is 100% involved and really helping me out with everything. I couldnt imagine being left alone and in a relationship you have to make comprimises and having a baby is no different. Tell his a.s.s. to grow up and start acting like a father!!

[OlgaJoanna94]

My husband went out once and I could not sleep or eat, I was too worried. I talked to him about how I felt and now he spends every second he can by my side. Just talk to him and tell him how you feel. Keep yourself from saying anything negative to him if he upsets you. Remember that you love him and he loves you and your child. Im sure he didnt mean what he said. Some men say things and its difficult for them to take them back. Good luck sweetie, hope you feel better soon.

[angelelaine]

Yeah like I get that he wants to have a good time or whatever,  I don't expect him to be in the house 24/7 but I hope it does change for him. Women have to give up everything as soon as they find out they are pregnant,  & here I am 37 weeks + 4 days & he still wants to go out all the time.

[proudFTMTeTe]

don't upset your self about things he is saying right now things are going to change for u n him soon the baby comes he just isnt aware yet because it's new to him

[joannagonzalez]

Oh hell no, how can you tolerate a guy that goes out girl, my man never left my side being preggo with my first from work straight home and if we did it was togheter as a couple. And ever since its been the same. He needs to grow up

[Allocate]

No you were not wrong. He needs to realize that he needs to help you with yalls daughter