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military mommies.
How do you mommies cope with your partners being in the military... my bf told me he wants to sign up for the military and my heart just sank... he says it will be a 9-5 job unless he goes out to sea which will be 9 months at a time... how do you cope without seeing him for so long.
But if that's what he wants to do i wouldn't hold him back. If he wants you to go with him, which by the sounds of it he does. It's up to you. You have to try an seeing it from his point of view. If you wanted, absolutely wanted to do something would he hold you back? It'll all work out. You have some time on your hands to think about all of this
Even if we havent dated long i still dont want him gone he was there for me at my hardest time and has been the only person to actually care for me..
How'd he get injured? Does he do something dangerous?
Cuz the only reason we settled on the six year enlistment is because it's one of the safer jobs lol
Cuz the only reason we settled on the six year enlistment is because it's one of the safer jobs lol
Lol it's what he wants. I won't stop him. Unless he gets injured again. But i actually like the military lifestyle. I think if he wasn't in I'd join
Yea I know. Nd 20 years!? I couldn't do it. I'd die lol. But after 20 you do get benefits for life. So I can see the allure lol
My husband signed up for six. I've accepted it thus far lol. He's only been in a year though
My husband signed up for six. I've accepted it thus far lol. He's only been in a year though
Lol it's not like i can sleep anyways haha. Two years. He's been in for four. He wants to do 20 total. ill check my inbox haha. I'm using the app so I dont really get notifications. It *****
How long does he plan on staying in?
Nd how long have you two been together?
Nd I sent you a message
Nd I'm really nosy lol
Nd tired. So if I ramble on, feel free to laugh lol
Nd how long have you two been together?
Nd I sent you a message
Nd I'm really nosy lol
Nd tired. So if I ramble on, feel free to laugh lol
Haha i didn't go through that with my husband. But his reenlistment packet seems to be taking forever.
Honestly I wouldn't worry too much about it. You've only been together two months nd even if he were to enlist right now, its still a long way to go. He'd have to sign up, do meps, asvab, paperwork, basic training, ait then finally get his duty station. My husband signed up in March 2011 nd didn't go to basic until Oct 2011. Graduated Jan 2012. Went to AIT Feb 2012. Finished May 2012 and was finally assigned his duty station May 3rd. Got settled nd I came up June 2012.
That's why I asked...cause you have to be married. Then you have to wait for your marriage certificate cause you'll need that for your dependence id an base housing if you choose to live on base. I used to feel likw that. My husband has always been giving to me. An sometimes we just have to learn to accept the help, gifts or whatever. Cause i used to be very independent. Then i got married lol. But you could always work if you wanted to or take classes. Just so you don't feel bored or anything. Being a military spouse has it's ups and downs but I've seen, met, done things I would have never done living a normal civilian life.
Yeah.. hes made me worse over the years and just makes it harder for me.. ill never hate my dad but i really wish he treated me better. Plus i really dont wana move too far from my fam... idk what id do without my mom around either... im just hoping he gets a job close to home so he doesnt have to leave....
You don't sound dumb at all. Emotional and psychological scars are just as real as physical ones.
However, your dad sounds like a POS (no offense). If your bf does join nd you do marry nd move with him, the military offers excellent resources for people with disabilities and emotional hangups for FREE.
However, your dad sounds like a POS (no offense). If your bf does join nd you do marry nd move with him, the military offers excellent resources for people with disabilities and emotional hangups for FREE.
Well ive been made to feel like **** my entire life by my dad cause im unable to work. He always called me a useless sponge and treated me like i was garbage... so just makes me hate not being able to contribute to bills and such... i always feel like im using someone or being useless if they even just buy me a drink... so idk what to do.. my bf knows id be staying here but hes like "well ill be making enough to take care of you and you would never have to worry..." idk.. i guess i just sound dumb...
@hayang yup lol...but I just try to enjoy the moment.
@mummytwobee are you guys married?
@mummytwobee are you guys married?
Yupp cyn_henderson. Same here. Its a pretty comfy life. Lol. But like everything there's good nd bad to it.
He wants to be a weapon tech of some sort. Like a weapon tech for the boats and such....
Lol I'm lazy. I stay home nd be pregnant all day. Tell hubby I'm creating life hahaha I don't even clean or cook anymore. He does all that. But then again, I have no problem being catered to nd waited on. Probably cuz it's been like this all my life. You could get disability if you moved nd were proven unfit for work.
Agree with hayang. We're living off of one income right now. Both of us are covered insurance wise. Bah pays for our house + utilities. We have two vehicles. An get to enjoy 200-400 of the check after luxury bills an car payments
Yes.. but i dont wana feel useless and like im not contributing anymore.... i already feel crappy enough having to be on disability.. but having nothing to contribute towards us will just make me feel worse... :/
Coast guard?? Losing disability shouldn't be a problem. I don't work nd me nd my husband live comfortably. We're barely 20, have a 2008 lancer nd a 2008 impreza, live in our own place, always have groceries and money to play with every weekend nd go out to eat whenever. The military takes care of things financially nd medically, pretty much 100%
Im not sure. He wants to do something that involves going out to sea... i dont remember what its called but its not the navy... and we dont have any kids at the moment... still waiting for me to be ready after my lil man. But i just dont know what im going to do with him gone all the time.. and cant move out to base with him im on disability so i would lose it if i moved.. just rather he wanted to do something else... but im not going to hold him back from what he wants to do...
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