Feeling a bit depressed

[Mrsortega]

Ill turn 20before my baby comes, my husband is 25. I definitely believe I'm still a baby, I feel like ill be a terrible mother because I have no idea what to do with a baby- they're a whole other life that will be under my watch- not till 18 but for the rest of my life. I have a small part time job, trying to start a full time student corse but it's been difficult being a transfer student- anyways my husband works on an oil rig with my dad here in TX and we are very capable of financially and emotionally able to take care of ourselves. We don't do drugs and don't smoke- I know when my baby comes ill be fine, especially with my husband and mine and his family's support. I'm blessed I have such a great support group- but I just can't help but feel I rushed into motherhood so fast. We weren't trying to have a baby but we weren't not trying either, we had a miscarriage about 2 years ago, and I think I just wanted one so bad after I stopped worrying. Honestly I'm not scared of the baby itself, I'll love him/her unconditionally - I'm worried that ill make bad choices for my child (no knowingly obviously) and they will make bad choices themselves. I don't want to fail as a parent. I want my baby to grow up with the world on their mind, not drugs, with passion in their heart, not sex, with music and traveling and college in the soul and mind set, not ***** and giggles.... Maybe I'm setting standards to high- but I want my baby to see the world and understand the good and bad and embrace the beauty with blossoms from it all.

Bottom line- I just don't want to fail my child /,:

[Mrsortega]

Thank you all so much! You all made me year up a little and I'm at work (,x you're all wonderful and I greatly appreciate your insight! <3

[sharichajewski]

You already sound like your going to be a wonderful mommy. Your already worried about the life u can give your child and that there makes you a wonderful parent. Your going to make mistakes as a mom, we all do, but your children will forgive you and continue to love you. We cant choose their destiny but we can take measures to help mold them into the people we want them to be by being that person ourself. Motherhood is a scary, exciting, nerve wrecking journey but its worth every step. Theres not a day that goes by that im terrified im gonna fail my boys but I kbow thats part of the journey as well.  You will do great and be an amazing mom.

[EstieRea]

GordonBaby is right. I'm 20 and my husband is 21 and were expecting. I am so worried. Emotionally we can do this, but we live in AZ and were both from Texas and his family is there. Financially were okay, but were going back to Tx in about a year and a half and it has my nerves all tensed up, since he won't have the same job, well have to starts over. My husband says I'm thinking about it too much, and worrying but I think those are our mother instincts.

[GordonBaby]

The fact that you have already set standards and have concerns already makes you a good mommy : ) Your doing everything you need to do for yourself and your family and that speaks volumes. Your natural instinct will kick in when it comes times to. HEAD UP luv, you will do just fine. As long as you want better, you will do better : )

[spazz7]

No matter what age you are you will always worry about those things and want good things for your children. im almost 25 and pregnant with my second.
Your going to be a great mom just for feeling that way and already wanting to protect your little one.

[raven_0810]

I feel the same way I'm a ftm and my baby is due in July and I turn 20 in August. I'm afraid I will mess up as a mom. I'm also from Texas and the baby's daddy is in the oil field also well he use to be right now he is taking a break from everything work me and the baby but all iI can do is when the baby is born try to be the best mom I can be for her

[snrich7420]

Don't worry that is completely normal to feel that!! I'm 23 and 39 weeks prego... I've had a bad past wit drugs and jus got clean 4 months befor I got prego... Now I have a year and 2 days:) but I am so scared of my daughter ending up doing drugs young or getting prego or mesing up.in school. I have so many worries!! But like my.mom told me.there really isn't much we can do to stop them they will do wat they r gonna do. Jus be the best mom u can. I've had no experience wit babies but everyone is saying.ur natural motherhood will kick in. Good luck hun u will be a greag mom:)