Aa
advice ??
Im seven months pregnant and in a very physical and mental abusive relationship I wanna leave but my partner wants to do a joint custody thing and every time I pack up my things he gets madder and very physical at the same time telling me to leave because he hates me then threatens me saying if I leave hell kill me wtf! I don't want my daughter to even know his name how can I keep her all to myself when its his daughter too??
"The cop thing" is the only way you will get your child to yourself! If all what your saying is true then doesn't deserve to have kids! If you don't do anything and you don't put him on the birth certificate and he finds a way to prove he's the father and that you knew YOU will be the one in trouble! Do you really want that? Look into restraining orders and you need to take his *** to court and get full custody! You'll have to say why but that's the only way you will be safe! And you'll feel a whole lot worse when he hits your kid and you had done nothing about it. You need to do something
Wow really ? Take respinsibility for yourself and your child. You are a complete moron if you stay in a relationship that endangers your child.
I hate to see you going through this, but please tell your family dnt feel ashamed or embarrassed or any of that. They can help you if you need to call the police when he's not around and have a family member or friend come and help you get your stuff out that way you will have protection if he try's to show up. So many women aren't as luck as you to get away. Do what's best for your baby and think about how you never want to see her oh through the same things as you did. Stay strong and pray about it, the strongest ppl go through the toughest times!
One day he may hurt you so much that he takes you away from your daughter so i wouldnt even feel guilty about reporting him..hes brought it on himself and will have to deal with the consequences. You amd your child are the only ones that matter at the moment and being safe. Glad you are staying with family, i hope the rest of your pregnancy is less stressful and a happy time..good luck, im sure youll make the right decision, only you can decide on what to do X
I'm sorry you're going thru this but if you don't want your child and his other child to go thru it then it's best to call the police and make a report. Tell someone. He already hurt himself and you cannot feel guilty because he doesn't feel guilty abusing you. Do it for you and your child's safety.
I am staying with family right now I'm out of the house its just trying to ignore him its hard because he throws it in my face that I have his kid in me and again the cop thing I can't do because its gonna take his daughter away. From him he's a good dad to her so I would feel really guilty
Leave, its not good for you and definately not good for your unborn child and i doubt things will get better. if you have reported the abuse to the police he wont stand a chance of getting any type of custody. X
So sorry your going through this ... I know how you feel I went through the same thing with my ex. I was.so scared to leave him cause I was afraid of what he would do ... I also have a close family and didn't want to tell them because I didn't want them to do something crazy and I didn't want anyone to feel bad for me and honestly I still haven't told anyone besides my sister who I told a few months after leaving him. I suggest talking to your boyfriend when you guys aren't fighting and everyone is calm just explain to him that its not healthy to be in the relationship any longer and see how that goes ... I did that and my ex acted crazy at first but eventually he stopped ... Move in with family and just be careful don't go places alone and once you leave DON'T see him or talk to him ... He will get false hope that you guys will get back together and that will make things so much worse ... If he trys to hurt you after you leave go to a battered woman's shelter and get a restraining order ... DONT feel bad ... I've done that too ... You got to worry about you and your baby right now ... Nobody else. Hr obviously isn't worried about you. I know it all seems easier said than done but you will be so much happier and feel so much better after you leave him trust me. Don't wait any longer .. It will vet worse. I waited way too long and my kids had to see some stuff they should have never seen and I will always feel guilty for staying that long and putting them through that. Don't make that misteak ... People like that don't change ... Take care of yourself and you baby ... Good luck with everything girl ... If you need to talk please do not hesitate to contact me
Do not put him on birth certificate make sure u dnt allow him at hospital whn you have her n fuckn leave him..
Obviously he dont care for his kids because if he did he wouldnt be putting his hands on you while your carrying his child ... u need to get you and your baby out of there asap like tonight asap
^^ exactly what she said, they help you through every step, even if you do t know where to start, they get it started for you and it'll help to prove he is abusive and he's less likely to get any type of custody.
You should go to a women's shelter. They can help you out with everything. Just leave him and go straight there don't hesitate.
You need to leave, it won't stop it just gets worse, he will begin to beat on you in front of your child and then he will possibly abuse the child, my ex did this to me and my child when I tried leaving him but I pulled through and got out. I filed for child support and also went to court and filed charges with the state on his abusive behavior and how he was unfit and abusive to us, we were granted protection from him and he can never take my son or even get visitation. I had tons of police calls / reports, cop friends, he had active warrants and 9 charges on his record so that helped me get him away from us, idk if you have all that but you gotta get out hun! Be safe and leave, please!
I am so afraid of this getting out I'm 21 still young and have a very close family I don't want them getting into trouble over this guy or feeling sorry for me I want them to be proud of me :/ plus my partner had a nine year old daughter who he's very good too I can't take him away from her
yeah.. you need to go to the cops hun.. that happened to me in the past and i swear i regret staying with my ex for 2 years.. try leaving when he's away..or asleep.. then go to the police and get help
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