Giving up on Love!!!!

[livinglife25]

Ive been with the father off my kids father since my oldest son who is 8 was 6 months old!!! We have a handsome son together who is four n a beautiful little girl who is 1 && now were expecting another little girl... the point is im 20 weeks +4 days pregnant and about two weeks before I found it what I was having he told me that he had another baby otw!!! I was actually at the doctor with my little girl and tears just started flowing uncontrollably!!!!  How could this be happening to me ??? I really don't know how far along she is all ik is that shes further then me and having a little boy.... he.told me that he didn't.want to be with her that it was a mistake n so.fourth but how could ejaculating in someone be.a mistake??? I told him that I was going to be by his side n that i would try.n make it work but how could I??? Im.always finding myself  lost in thought about this n like now tears r forming in eyes!!.like I said I could deal with.the baby he innocent in everything but hOw could I deal with.the thought off them having to have this relationship but the baby ??? How could I trust them.around eachother??? I don't want to always have to be looking over my shoulder the way that I do now wondering and thinking!!!!! But if I decide to walk away then she's going to have my kids father the one I was suppose to spend the rest off my life with.... please help me!!!! :(

[nursej22]

Wow. @rozesz. I like that you want to have a civil relationship with your bd but its f***ed up what you're doing. Guys are slime bags sometimes we as women have to choose to say no lets keep it at an appropriate relationship you have a girl n so forth. I see what your saying about the way she came at you but still...... but you are definitely not on the same side of the boat as the op n how are you guys best friends n you didnt know he was still with her?.  N to op yeah your trust is definitely going to be very low.

[CindyLovesTito]

I'll say just leave him he shouldn't have done that if he loves you n his kids. Just think about it would you want your kids to see you guys upset or arguing. Its his betrayal ...I wouldn't be okay with it. I had a situation almost the same but turned out she lied bout being pregnant.

[livinglife25]

Im so hurt :( I'm.emotional n I don't want to be stressing but how.do I stop,???? Will in ever get over this

[bama_mama]

If he goes to court and has visitation theres nothing you can do about him taking his child around the mother of his other chidren. Just go ahead and be prepared for that now bc it will evebtually happen and be an issue one day, and ghe way i see it the other woman is no different than a day care teacher Or getting a new teacher at school every year, at least the stepmom or new girlfriend is consistang

[Rozesz]

She rubbed it in my face that I was going to be stuck with two kids while she's with him which I don't really care about I don't need a man but cmon now we aren't in high school anymore. I'm not going to fight over a guy.

[Rozesz]

I may sound heartless but I really don't because she's not understanding about my situation. Shes not the nicest person you could say, she even said once that she hopesi get raped and she doesn't want him to help me at all. So to me it's like ima worry about myself and my pregnancy I could care less about anything else that goes on with her

[audieDenise]

Im so sorry:( this breaks MY heart...its a tough situation. Nd really that's a huge understatement! I honestly don't know what to tell yu. I could say to follow your heart but that often steers us wrong. If yu are religious, then pray about it. Pray, and pray, n pray sum more. Stay strong for yu and your babies. I wanna hug yu!!!!! So sorry your having to deal with this:(

[livinglife25]

@rosesz do you care about n she feels???

[Rozesz]

Honestly, no. I have really bad trust issues. I. Have a 3 year old and have really bad trust issues. When I was a little girl my uncle and aunt use to treat me very badly and would threaten me that if I said something they would hurt me. So if these people that are my so called family could do this to me, what makes me think someone who isn't family will treat me any better.  I would probably just wait till my child gets old enough to talk and let me know what's going on but as a newborn or toddler, no.

[LovelyJen94]

I'm in the same sittuation as you, I said I would stay by his side but honestly dont know if I can continue its all I think about when he leaves when he's on his phone & no matter what I do its always in the back of my mind ...

[livinglife25]

@rosesz Understandable!!!! If he stays with his kids mother would you let your . Baby go around.her???

[Rozesz]

Because even if he lied. I've known him for 8 years. He's my best friend and even if he lied, there's nothing I can do to change it. I rather just be in good terms with him since he's going to be in mine and my child's life forever. He may not have been the right guy for me but I know he'll be an amazing dad to my child. I don't want my baby to just see us arguing and hating each other, I rather get along and stay friends and give my baby a good example.

[livinglife25]

@rosesz but why would you still want.to talk to him after he's lied???

[Rozesz]

Maaan, this sounds so much like my situation! I'm currently pregnant but my baby's father didn't tell me he was still with his baby's mother:/ they live together and I didn't know. it's a tough situation.  I understand the whole having to look over your shoulder thing cause this may not sound too nice but you really do. Even though my baby's father tells his baby's mom he isn't seeing me, truth is, he is. He comes and brings me my cravings, he takes me out. He buys me whatever I need. He still tells me he loves me. We spent time together and talk a lot but maybe it's also because we were best friends before anything ever happened between us so we ha've a great connection. My baby daddy told his baby mommy It was a mistake getting me pregnant n blah blah blah but it's not true. My baby daddy knew what he was doing. I wanted to abort the baby after I found out what was going on with his baby momma but he begged me to keep it and is so happy about our baby. Idk girl but seeing how my baby daddy is, you never know. Just keep your guard up