Venting

[Adoreme]

My New Year's Eve was cool soon as the ball dropped my bd went to hang out with his friends which I don't mind but I did ask for him not to come in to late it's 8am n he still isn't home which I trust em so I don't believe he's with another girl but he enjoys drinkin and having a good time with his friends he's 25 and I understand he still has a life but this happens at least once a week we speak on it and the last time it happen he promised not to start off the new year like this but he's done it again I'm tried worked up stressed and refuse to get up and cry all the time. I understand he needs his space but u can be reasonable and plus ur going to have a family u need to be more responsible I feel alone n I tend to cry wishing my mom was here or rubbing my tummy n tellin my baby ima do this for us. I'm ready to tell em I can't do this anymore.? NO JUDGMENTS ONLY OPINIONS ALLOWED.

[maybaby19]

I agree with ktowne. That's what I did with my husband, even left him before he realized what was important to him.

[KTowne]

I would be LIVID! My husband is 24, and as soon as I got pregnant and we knew a family was started, he knew his partying days are over. If he pulls this stuff when your little one comes you're really going to start resenting him for it, and it's not fair to you or the baby. My husband can go out with his friends, but he BETTER be home to sleep, and it better not be for more than a few hours if he's drinking, there's no reason to get wasted once a week when you have a family started. I would set some serious rules and guidelines for him, and if he keeps overstepping them I'd put my foot down.

[Adoreme]

@nina I hope he does for the sack of his child and myself @kimejo yes 7 hrs ago :-/

[Kimejo_81]

Has he called or come home yet??

[Nina159]

Yes it they seem to think that no one cares gor them and I hope he changes for u and the baby

[Adoreme]

I agree @nina it's selfish of them not to even worry if we're ok or goon crazy urgh he just got here its 11am. N he bring breakfast I can careless for the **** anyhow but whatever I'm ignoring him for now @soontobemamma yeah we have a good relationship but I hope things change before the baby

[Nina159]

Oh haha a surprice the wat would drive me crazy I wanted a girl but deep down I knew I was going to have a boy

[soon2bmamma]

Yeah, I totally agree he should have at the very least called you! It's okay, I'm cleaning the whole house, gonna make him feel guilty that he's been out all night & I'm here bustin my pregnant bum doing housework lol

I'm not sure what the next step would be, guys aren't bright & I'm not sure what your relationship is like so I don't want to tell you to make any kind of ultimatum if he would just pack up & leave :( hopefully once baby comes it will be a wakeup call to him that he needs to be a daddy & that is his priority

@nina I'm not sure if it's boy or girl yet, hoping for a girl but I think I'm gonna wait till birth to find out :) I'm only 14+2 right now so I wouldn't know yet anyway :P

[Nina159]

Awww il be mad with no answer hope he shows up soon for his sake... I hate worrying about them and them not even thinking what if shes worryed. I try but dosent listen then the fighting starts and I just ignore him and stop talking then I feel so guilty because my poor son hears it all :/

[Adoreme]

I so understand ladies no he hasn't came home I've called over 5x and sent a heart breaking text and nothing I know he's probably laid out in his friends house with a hangover but Idc u should make ur way home charletta92 no that shouldn't be to much to ask wth if we were to do that to them how would they feel ? @soontobemamma ugh I think I will try to compromise but what happens when compromising done work what's the next step? & no it's not cool that he called n said he going to play video games uve been out all night being ur butt home u have other days to play video games urgh @nina159 exactly we buss our butts off too manage to do whatever for our child but the bd acts like if nothing he needs to help u more u can't possibly do everything by yourself with baby wrapped around smh

[Nina159]

Haha thats good he called :) now u wont be worryed :) and yes I told him but nada he can be super nice but just seems like the bad is drawning out the good and sins im tired and frustrated I snapp at him way easyer then befor so then he gets mad blahhh and congrats do you know if uts a boy or girl already

[soon2bmamma]

Lol nooo he just called & let me know that he's gonna stay there for a bit & play video games lol that's not cool tho that he doesn't help you out, that part would make me crazy, my hubby does so much like above and beyond cause I'm usually sick or tired laying in bed but yeah I can see why youre frustrated, it's like one thing piling on top of another ...ugh knock him out lmao

[Nina159]

I get u I feel like doing that because I worked my but off to graduate high school early so my mom wont have to take care of my baby all day and my bf dosent seem to want to go bk and now we are all ways fighting just some minutes ago he was yelling at me for cleaning my room with the baby in my arms and I told him if I dont do it then no one does it mined that he is makeing alot of the mess and he hardly holds the baby just so I can use the reastroom and eat super fast then he just calls me bk saying here can u get him now and he wanders why im frustrated boys this days -.- has he came home yet ?

[soon2bmamma]

I completely 100% understand how you are feeling, hubby does the same thing, he can't really afford to keep it up once a week but anytime he goes with friends drinking he's out all night, it's 915am here and he's still not home. I used to get worried & super angry about it but now I'm just kinda like meh I trust him & he comes home to me eventuallylol most of the time he falls asleep on his friends couch. He would promise that he would never stay out until morning and come sleep at home but it would just cause fights cause he gets drunk and passes out..tell him that it really bothers you if it does, have a calm conversation and just let him know how you feel..but my biggest advice is if you know you can trust that his fun is innocent then maybe compromise that once baby comes he can't be out all hours that YOU AND BABY will need him home..good luck girl :) lemme know how it turns out for ya, if you ever wanna talk or vent just msg me

[charletta92]

Omg I feel the same way. I mean are we asking for too much?