just venting, teen moms comment

[isha01]

Hate when people try to tell you that your life is over or that you won't be able to take care of a baby just because we are young.. I hate when people tell me what I can't do.I'm about to be 19 in 2 1/2 months.. If I get pregnant then that's my business, my body, and my child... I feel like nobody has a right to tell me if I'm gonna be a good mother or not. Our lives isn't over it just starts a little early.. I support all the young teen moms out there taken care of their business, let's prove them wrong.

[manapenni]

Amen! I always say my son came into my life earlier than I could have ever imagined, but that just means I have gotten to enjoy him that much longer :)

[DWmama]

I had a baby at 15. Everyone told me life was over. Little did they know the best part of my life had just begun. 9 years later and I am more well off then all the people that had nothing nice to say. Keep your head up mama you'll be great!

[specialmom]

I wasn't a teen mom and my life was so different once I had my first child.  No more doing whatever I want to.  No more going out a lot.  No more buying myself a new shirt because money goes to the baby.  It IS a pretty big life changer ladies.  For everyone.  

[DWmama]

Life changer yes but life being over? Not one bit. Your life changing for the better and being over is two different things. It all depends on how you take it and what you do with your life.

[specialmom]

And let me just say that I respect the teen mom who steps up to the plate and does her very best.  It's difficult.  Absolutely.  And some do a fabulous job holding it all together and growing up, mothering their child and becoming great adults.  I commend young ladies that can do it.  It does take a lot of personal sacrifice and hard work but it probably makes for one strong woman down the road.  

[specialmom]

Certain parts of my life were over as I became a mother.  I'm okay with that.  I chose the life I have and am happy.  But can't deny that things drastically changed.  Everything from my earning ability (now very conflicted about work and being away from my kiddos) to just being able to sit and read a book when I feel like it.  

So, I am not being negative---  because motherhood is great.  I'm saying though for every woman, no matter the age, things really do change once you are a mother.  Not just for teens but all women.  I planned my pregnancies with my husband and all is good.  I just have to be honest, life is a lot different.  Richer and warmer with a baby.  But MUCH less about me.  

[DWmama]

^^^^very true. It doesn't matter what age you are things change drastically. Like for example right now instead of watching something I want to watch at 7:30 in the morning my two year old is handing me the remote to watch Jake and the Neverland pirates lol :-)

[missymarie214]

I've always hated when people say that "life is over". It's such a negative way too look at things. To me, it's not that my life is over, but I'm beginning a new life. I think that being a mom is the greatest blessing you can be given, and the most important job in the world, and I don't know how people can make it sound so awful. Sure, I'm only 19, but to me that means I was blessed a little early. It hurts a lot when I hear those negative comments, especially when I hear "Don't you know how that happens?" and "Haven't you heard of birth control?", because I was always told I'd never have a baby, so this pregnancy is nothing short of a miracle for me. Nobody wants to believe a young mom can do the right things, but I fully intend to prove every person who has doubted me wrong, and I know for a fact that one way or another, my son is going to have an amazing, happy life!

[isha01]

With me I'm okay with that, I'm okay knowing things are gonna change because I'm willing to change my lifestyle for my baby. I'm not a normal teenager i don't go to parties every weekend i don't ho to club;s all I do is work and go home so Itthink me having a baby would make my life better the baby would give me a future to look forward to, right now I think my life is boring but when my baby is in my arms life will be so much better, i feel like the only thing I'm missing is my child.. I can't wait to be a mother

[isha01]

With me I'm okay with that, I'm okay knowing things are gonna change because I'm willing to change my lifestyle for my baby. I'm not a normal teenager i don't go to parties every weekend i don't ho to club;s all I do is work and go home so Itthink me having a baby would make my life better the baby would give me a future to look forward to, right now I think my life is boring but when my baby is in my arms life will be so much better, i feel like the only thing I'm missing is my child.. I can't wait to be a mother

[isha01]

Awe that is so sweet congratulations, yes I agree i hate when people is so negative and then they're like " you got your whole life ahead of you why don't you wait" like leave me alone worry about your life and I'll worry about mine.. I believe tomorrow isn't promised so if I'm going to do something it's going to happen

[Asiaona]

I hate when people say your life is over too . So many people have had negative things to say but my daughter is truly a blessing. And I know life will be different . But I believe me and her father can manage this new life were about to enter together. I think it all depends on the person. I am very ambitious and have set high goals for myself. And I have every intention of meeting my goals . My life is far from over its just about to begin .

[mommaKatxx]

Aawwhhh, I love this post. Kudos to you young(er) mommy's. I'm "young" too, but I'm prior Marines, and growing up fast is a requirement... Funny you ladies bring this up, because my husband and I were JUST talking about this last night... And we were saying... No, our lives are not over.... And yes, it'll be different.. But it'll be a great experience. We're first time parents... And I have nooooo prior "baby" helping growing up.. But he's raised his brothers. Its a huge change, but... Our lives... Is no ones to be judged.

You go teenmommies! Stand your ground, be the best momma you can be... And shove that back in your haters faces!
:)

[Ashtaylor]

Your life isn't over it's just beginning I had my little boy when I was 16 and I wouldn't change it for the world sometimes I think I'm actually a better mother than some of the older ones my boy has everything he needs but most important he has all my love I'm expecting again I'm now 24 and he is so happy he can't wait :):)don't listen to negative people you will be great:)

[stephk1994]

I hate when people tell u in 20 years ul be looking back and ull regret it .. im 10 weeks with my first child and im 20 and I believe its ginna be the best part of my life and ill be more happier than I am now .. im not like most 20 year olds I have my own home partner and look after myself therefore its noone elses buisness I will look after my child and other people who tell me otherwise and tell me my life is over etc they should k3ep there comments to themselves .. noone can tell u how ull feel or how it will effect u .. every child should be considered as a blessing

[showard022]

When I have my son at 19 my life began. I had a beautifull child who I lived with my whole heart and my husband who is my bestfriend. It got me into gear going back to school and am finishing my nursing degree in 3 weeks. It let me do all the things I wanted but was able to do it with a more mature mind set. I have girls my age with no kids going to school who grades that no were near meet mine. I'm happy my old life is over. :) I am very lucky and even luckier to be expecting my second little boy in 54 days or less. I am not saying it wasn't hard cause it sure was but totally worth it. I also was a huge hermmet before getting pregnant though. lol

[Tauti]

I told my family I was pregnant when I was 18 half way thru I turned 19 and I married the father and I live with him on our own. When I told my family everyone was excited except one of my older sisters. She said I just needed to get rid of the baby because it was going to be the biggest mistake of my life. And I wouldn't be able to do anything or take care of it. Then she started yelling at my mom and told her that it was bull sh** that she was standing behind me when she should be telling me it's wrong. Needless to say I'm done with that so called sister. Haven't talked to her since even when she found out this would be her first niece. She still don't care.

[november23J_S_N]

I'm currently watching a movie called the pregnancy project and I definitely recommend it for us teen mothers... I am 17 years old and I am graduating high school early.I have gotten scholarships and with the help of my boyfriend and family I will go to college. I am very happy with this little blessing. I really want to be someone son is proud of

[hersheyma]

Specialmom always leave great comments, everything youve said is so true,  some things are over, but not life in itself, things  change and there will,be struggles, i was pregnant at 16 had my first child at 17, he is  now turning 18 on thanksgiving on his way to college , no babies, no gangs, no smoking, no drinking, never failed, never been suspended, Never been arrested, no tattoos, no piercings lol im super proud of my son.....

[KLAMotherofTwo]

I'm 19 and I'm pregnant with my first child a month after she's born ill be 20 and I'm still being talked down about , I graduated and attended college its not just a age thing some people are just ignorant and judgemental about anyone in any situation  when I found out I was pregnant my whole life changed instantly I no longer buy things for myself my child is first , no longer party . I see myself as someone's mom that's who I am. I love to prove people wrong soooo I say keep your head up no matter how young , old . Uneducated , educated you are or people say you will be prove them wrong and be the best mother you can be to your children

[jasmine5725]

I'm 16 and had my son a month ago and life did change but wasn't over. God gave me my blessing a little earlier and gave me my son a little longer. If I can do it you can too. Also the main thing I hate is when people say my parents are raising my baby because NO they are not me and my bf bought everything with money we work for, and when I tell people that they always give ugly looks like yea right. I'm glad u made this post it because Evan though were young we know what we got our self's into and were ready for the responsibility. ☺☺

[isha01]

Everyone that commented is so true we are all great people raising our little blessings, I hate when people is so negative.. You can't let people control your happiness.. I thought i was pregnant 2 times by different guys but the  very first time I was 17 turning 18 my mom was telling me that I'm not ready for a baby and that if I am pregnant I would be getting am abortion andthat literally killed me inside because I do not believe in abortion and I don't support it at all.. A couple.months ago my mom was saying the same thing but I've gotten to the point where I don't car because at the end of the day it's my life and I'm gomma do what i want with it.. I want to have a baby I'm gonna have a baby they are not gonna be the ones taking care of my baby but me and the father.. We should all just do what males us happy and forget about what people have to say because they are not providing for our children.. Congratsto all the new mommies that commented.. And thanks for sharing y'all stories that have motivated me even more.. We gotta stay strong ladies

[mandi010111]

I had my first son at 17 and im pregnant at 19 with number two. Im still with father and im better iff then mist people my age . I move oyt at 18 finished school early and am in college i would never think my son is a mistake. He save me in so many ways . I love him and i cant even imagine how life would be without him here. If anything having my son was the best choice of my life because he made me better (:

[Deedebaybeh]

i got pregnant at 15 had lil man at 16. now im pregnant with my second lil man im 20 now. still hear all that bs till this day. do i think its the smartest idea? No. would i advise young people to have kids? no. But my life was not over. i still was able to do what i wanted but i chose not to. my kids are my life & me and my boyfriend love them to death.

i love bein mommy, its hard but a pure blessing.