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[ashmiester579]

I left my boyfriend on the eighteenth because he was physically hurting me or only asking me for sex when he was around and ignored me when he want. I'm twelve weeks pregnant with his baby and I want him there but I want him gone. I don't want anything to happen to me and I don't want anything to happen to my baby but I want him in our life. He appeared at my house yesterday with two of his stupid friends. I stayed quiet mostly. I also did everything he told me so he would stay calm which got out of hand. I don't know what to do anymore...

[amber541]

Sounds like a dangerous situation hun please take care of yourself and your baby. From your post it sounds like nothing good can come from being around him so sorry your going through that. Find support from other friends or family. & congrats <3

[heenabean22]

If you already left him then i give u mad props and i think by the sounds of it you need to stick to it. I was with an abusive partner for 5 years and have 3 children with him, i stayed because i wanted my family together and he was the only man i was comfortable with. It ended very badly, he got in trouble for child abuse and domestic violence as he would put his hands on me and break things in front of my children and in result of all that i got into trouble as well for not reporting it and letting it happen. I had to do 1 year of classes and counseling for all of it. My suggestion to u that no matter how much it hurts and no matter how much u love him through the abuse, don't go back to it hun it can resort to things u don't want to happen, my kids. got put into foster care because of it and i am still fightin court to get them back. i am now in a healthy relationship and am back on my feet... its been over a year.. i hope that my story and advice helps you and you do wats best for you and your baby!  Good luck and stay strong.

[AnnieBrooke]

You know the way you are letting him command you to do this or that because you are afraid of his anger?  Do you want to train your child to accept that this is normal?  That it is OK for someone to hit you and therefore you have to tiptoe around in fear?

Please see a counselor and figure out why you are still in the relationship.  You deserve better and your baby deserves better.  

[uhohstellajean17]

If you already feel fear and you already feel like you need to suppress certain feelings and comments just because he wants it that way; you're not living. Instead just there at his feet. Leave and stay gone.