my man going out

[alexx1216]

I hate it when my man goes out to the club -.- he doesn't do it every weekend but he does a couple times a month. I have some trust issues so that's why it bothers me. He works hard for us & the baby coming so I try to hold in as much as I can lol. Anyone else have this problem? Or feel like I should be okay with it? I just wanna feel better about it but it's hard...

[chrissyzajac]

I wouldn't be happy about that situation. I'd give him an ultimatum. Change or leave. I was mom and dad for my first child and still are. Its not too hard just trying. Not too many breaks. You would still have people help you out and child support would help with the baby. Good luck!! Dont be soo upset and dwell on it. Not healthy for you or the baby

[alexx1216]

Thank you. He came home at 4:50am banging on my window so I could let him in my back door cause he didn't take any keys cause he didn't drive, so he was drunk, I was pissed because I wanted him home no later than 4am, also I had to get up at 9am to babysit & had a restless night. I then saw his snapchats he posted (everyone may not know what that is, but it's an app where you post short videos) anyway, he was talking about we're out here with 3 beautiful girls (one of them was with a guy idk who he was) & the other two were just standing by her, idk what had been going on previous to the video. & another following video was him saying oh im going home to my baby & this & that. Anyway I'm extremely upset about it & still haven't talked to him cause he was sleeping when I left the house.

[chrissyzajac]

Tell him you dont mind it but you want him to spend more time with you and that it comforts you especially in this point in time with a baby coming.. Just be open

[chrissyzajac]

I know exactly how you feel. My boyfriend and I have been after each other for 10 years but its never been the right time or life got in the way. I haven't seen him since may 11.... He's in the army and got transferred 8 hours away. They keep him so busy we can only text a few times a day and haven't heard his voice since may. He knows about the baby and is nervous and scared but he does want to be with us. Doctors told him he couldn't have kids (same with my ex and my now 4 year old). I want him to be with me and experience this but won't get to see him till mid August. Its hard not to want to be whiney about it but I have to be strong because he doesn't need anymore stress than he already has. But just like I did, you should tell him how you feel. Tell him that you do t mind hi.

[young_couple]

I find it easier if at least once a month he takes me with him then i know the ppl he is around and makes me more comfortable with him going out ehen i dont ferl like goibg

[cali1904]

^ yup and @maleka87  I think clubbing and any where else a skank going to be a skank. I mean even at a store a skank can play her game lol. But is more chances that in the club their going to be more skanks but yet if they see a man alone obesly their going to think hes single and needs company.b

[Amy1830]

I would never stand for my fiancé going to a club. I realize I'm older and I'm usually in the 25-34 forum so I guess my lifestyle is a bit different.  But clubs are no place for committed people, in my opinion. The only thing that goes on there is drinking, dancing and hooking up. I'm not saying your man is cheating or anything but its not an appropriate place for him to be going anymore.

[Maleka87]

Clubbing is a little different than a guys poker night. Sorry. It's true. I mean...at guys poker night there's no real risk that some skank can roll up on your man-whether you trust him or not. Jesus.

[MissJessGolden]

My bf has gone to the club too. I dont have a problem with it because he goes with his friends and calls and texts while he is out. When he gets home he tells me all about it and climbs in bedand snuggles with me. I feel that if a man tells you everything he does without you asking then he has nothong to hide.

[ftm_mommy]

My boyfriend is never home... he gets home from work and comes visits me but he's falling asleep (which pisses me off) I mean I understand he's working an all but I see he's perfectly awake with his friends..  and when he's not with me he's with his friends... but I mean why can't he stay home and rest if he's so tired like he says he is when he's with me...

[smileymonn89]

Mellissa_182

You needa leave that boy he isnt treating you right .

His behaviour is discusting !!

[smileymonn89]

All i have to say ladies is if a man wants to spend time with you he will make time and if he isnt then you need to sit him down and have a seriouse chat in regards to your relationship.

I think a guy going to the clubs without his mrs or if she is pregnant is just plain rude and uncalled for clubs are a singles environment not couples and if you are going there then there must be a reason.

Best thing to do is tell him how you feel see how he responds and work on it from there :)

Good luck

[melissa_182]

I have the same trust issue with my husband, except mine doesn't go out but they wanted to take him to a strip club in Vegas on his bday & of course I got extremely mad cuz he said if I go I would habe to stay in the hotel room the entire time like wth. I have trust issues because not too long ago I took his phone & saw a pic of a girl in a thong that was sent to him on snapchat& he had been sexting her for awhile behind my back & from there on he changed his password to his phone, he locks himself for 30min in the restroom, when we're laying in bed he turns around & gives me his back so I won't see, he all of a sudden gets a text & either goes to sit in the kitchen table or stands by the fridge & then comes back after he replies..

[briannamariebaby1]

That is so crazy, im experiencing that right now! Although he has not been out to a club in 3 months. I didnt argue when he said he was goung but it bothers me because, i dont trust females. Every since we found out were pregnant most nights he is out drinkng with his friends. I feel he has more important things to be doing with his time. I want to sit him down, but i dont want him to feel like im nagging him... help?

[cali1904]

Yup I mean if my bf would go to a club I would of think.okay and what does club do dance. I mean and who is he going tk dance with if im hear. I mean I would understand a bar. Or at a friends house. but a club. Not to give u any bad ideas or make u feel bad but thats the thing I would think

[Mama_Mari20]

I honestly wouldn't be okay with it clubs are for single people in my opinion or if you like to go with your partner. My fiance stopped going out when we found out I was pregnant so he could be with me. I think its okay maybe once in a while to go hangout with friends and have a drink but not at a club lol good luck mama !

[1st_time_mommyscarbro]

So glad my husband has never been into clubbing since we have started dating and he has been sober 5 years but my advice to you is if you having trust issues over what an ex did...STOP! You should never punish your man for mistakes your ex made. I had issues in the beginning too because my ex was so sneaky, cheated and knocked 4 girls up! But my husband is Nothing like him and you just have to let them prove that. If it's stressing you out than talk to him and compromise :) relax and as much as it s u c k s just TRUST that he loves you enough he won't do anything dumb. My husband works out of state half a year and trust me on used to make me go crazy wondering what all the guys were doing in the bars but some times guys need MAN time with the guys and that's OK :) Good Luck hun!

[GeekMom1213]

A couple times a month? When he works hard and spends his other nights at home with you?
My husband is a DJ at a club on Fridays in addition to his full time job, I work part time and we have a 3-year-old and I still tell him to go out sometimes and enjoy himself, go have a couple beers with the guys or a poker night or go see a band perform. He needs time to relax away from the house just like I do, and he makes it a point to give me that time away too.
If you have trust issues you should work on that... but the time he spends away if it's only a couple times a month is not excessive. Family is first priority but it doesn't have to mean that all other socialization has to end.
Continuing to be our own separate people with different interests and friends is one of the things that makes my relationship with my husband interesting. If we spent all our time together we wouldn't have as much to talk about. And we cherish our time together more because we don't always have as much of it as we'd like - but we really enjoy that time with friends, too.

[expecting6thbaby]

Invite your self at the last minute... you don't have to drink to go... if I can't go my hubby can't go...me and my husband have been together for 10 yrs and including this one 6 pregnancys.... trust your gut if it sounds or feels iky it probably is... go with him...

[alexx1216]

Thank you ladies. Yes we will definitely be discussing this tomorrow cause there isn't much to talk about when he's getting ready to go -.-

[meeshathreatt]

I feel my bf should stay home more too being pregnant is really hard and going thru it alone it's just not right

[cindylovebaby]

U deserve the best mama. Ur beautiful and have the ultimate gift a woman can give to a man. He really might not b doing anything. Just stay strong. Last thng u want is to stress u and baby. Sit down w him and get ur feelings out. U deserve to b heard and respected( not sayng he doesnt). And rmbr u deserve happiness for u and baby . With or w\o a man . Trust me i raised my first alone. But gd men r out there. Ur dude myt b one:)

[Cassie_rondo]

You Need Him And That's All The Reason For Him You Day home. Goodluck

[Cassie_rondo]

You Need Him And That's All The Reason For Him You Day home. Goodluck